There's been an ongoing topic that carries a little bit of conflict in my marriage. My wife wants to go on a cruise; I hate cruises. I've actually never been on one. I'm just pretty sure I'd hate it. I like to do my own thing, I don't like gluttony and I don't like being around a bunch of fat people. Anyway, my wife and I know where we both stand on the subject of cruises. Stupidly, for my MIL's birthday, my wife's "gift" to her mom was a trip. "Trip" was totally undefined, though my wife suggested the MIL's hometown. MIL was like, "Fuck that. Why would I want to go back there!" I LOLed to myself. But that morphed into my wife coming up with alternatives, one of which was a cruise. I was like, "Fine. Go. Good for you. But I'm not going." It got complicated where kids were going, which meant I would be the only one in my family not there (and not available to help with the kids). I was just like, "Hey, tough titty. I'm happy for you and the kids to go and I'm happy to pay for it, but I'm not going." This conversation happened like 3-4 times. Each one was the same - she'd describe some new wrinkle in the plan and mildly try to convince me to go and I'd tell her, again, I don't like cruises and I don't want to go.
Fast forward to our road trip vacation this summer. First couple of hours in the car we're talking, catching up on a bunch of shit. Then she brings up the cruise again. "Hey, you know the cruise with my mom we've been talking about?" Mind you, this is like the fifth time she's brought it up. I responded, "Look, I told you. I'm not going. You and the kids can go. Great. But you know I don't like cruises and I am not going to do it." Her response (she's all pissed off now), "Well, if you would LET ME FINISH, I was going to tell you that plans fell through so it's not happening!" WTF? If the point you are trying to make is that the cruise is off, then A) why are you bringing it up in the first place, and B) you should lead with that, not with the same intro you used in the last four conversations about it where you tried to guilt me and convince me to go on this fucking cruise. We argued about it and it turned into this big fucking fight and she was pissed off at me for the rest of the trip.
When we got home we were still fighting. At one point I told her, "Let me give you an example of why this is fucked up. Hey, I wanted to bring up anal sex again." "And then you say, 'I told you! I'm not doing it!!'" "Then I say, 'Well, if you would LET ME FINISH, I was going to tell you that I'm not interested in it anymore!" She was not amused, nor did she concede the point.