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  1. I missed the ' in 6' and thought it was " as in 6" + and thought damn, women are getting aggressive and demand-forward in their online dating profiles. I just be like, yes nail care is important to me, I take care of mine and keep them trimmed and well out of the danger zone.
  2. I'm doing fine on all 6 fronts for wellness myself. but if you think pharma, research, medical schools and doctors aren't failing Americans in healthcare then you aren't paying attention to how absolutely fucking broke our healthcare system is. most money spent and some of the worst outcomes in the developed world. our food system is fucking trash compared to Europe and our medical system is worse.
  3. middle aged women have this boomerang back on them. I've warned more than a few straight women who are thinking of divorce, "are you sure?" and then I say things like, "look, men your age aren't likely to want to date you, they may want to fuck you but when it's time to resettle they are going younger" and things like, "if you want a divorce first make sure you are 100% okay with being alone and occasionally sleeping around" because that's about all that's guaranteed here. same thing, young women are choosing not to be in relationships, middle aged single women can't find them. and there are plenty of lazy women, plenty that are not worth the time, but this thread is about young men and young women.
  4. what makes you say that? 25% but the key is, make sure she sees you doing it without it looking like your showing off.
  5. reminds me I sealed the deal with my current wife on an offshore fishing trip in Mexico. she saw me with my feet up relaxing, maxing life out catching wahoo or something like that, and thought damn she's got her life figured out. I want some of that. fishing is always the answer.
  6. band ain't like band when we were in school. there are some good looking guys, fit as can be and some cute girls too. that's what happens in a school of 3500-4000.
  7. right, masculinity isn't the problem, lazy masculinity is the problem (so is this stupid fucking alpha male masculinity bullshit). but you're not paying attention if you think the landscape on what women have to tolerate hasn't changed. It's changed A LOT. Most men adapt because undefeated. but to keep up, average men do have to adapt and up their game now. My oldest son has issues. I'd rather not share about them on the internet though. My youngest is TBD, he's a gamer but he's also straight A's, leader in band, excels in music, and he's ambitious, works out, charming, funny and has cuteAF freckles, dimples and hazel eyes.... so when he decides he wants it, he could be ok.
  8. though you didn't wade into professional or emotional issues too much here, I can say you don't sound like any of these guys. there really are grown men who are absolute bumps on a log. like for real.
  9. and guess who is teaching him how to be a man? a trans woman. You're god damn right I'm a groomer. I think I know a thing or two about gender and relationships.
  10. and my straight girlfriends in the middle of, contemplating or just finishing their divorces... what do I hear? "I'm tired of doing all the work." "I don't want to be with a bump on a log." "He has no idea what he wants, I can't live like this." "the only thing he's good for is killing a snake and lifting heavy things." all kinds of shit like that. the answer is easy, do the fucking work, don't be lazy.
  11. Eh, as I alluded to above, stop being a net negative in women’s lives and you’ll be fine. Understand what they want, provide that and boom you get the girl. Whether it’s politics, emotional IQ, money, picking up after yourself, helping around the house or whatever, be the excellent version of you and someone will buy.
  12. Lot going on here but fundamentally the world changes, women can live on their own and their ability to want more or want different has evolved. Not every rule has changed but some have. I have a unique perspective, and I am raising 2 boys and have a 3rd out of the house. My 17 year old is a really good looking young man and he’s got adult level game. Doesn’t always translate to the teens but he has it going on. all this talk about masculinity is toxic is nonsense. Toxic masculinity is a problem. Lazy masculinity is a problem. You want the girl, figure out what she wants and needs and provide it. what’s his secret? Starts simple - good hygiene, fantastic smile, pays attention to what he wears. He works out, keeps his truck clean, has money and is not concerned about spending it on good times with friends. He saves money too. From there he likes to have a good time, understands the power of telling a good story, making people laugh, and making people feel good about themselves. he knows how to appreciate, compliment, carry on a conversation and frankly has being a good conversationalist as his his number one trait he is looking for in a girl after physical attraction when looking to date. he understands his emotions, he can talk about them, he can be vulnerable and he also knows that tending to his emotional wounds and needs is his responsibility first but that being seen is critical to a positive relationship. He is slow to anger, he is a great listener. in his personal time he’s always learning and wanting to be a better version of himself. He knows how to make things, he knows how to take care of things, he loves the outdoors, camping, and other guy things. But he loves the theatre too. He’s not afraid to follow his interests. He’s NOT a gamer but when friends come over he will whip their ass at Mario kart. He buys video games to entertain his friends when they come over, but rarely plays alone. when it comes to being a man his ideas are forming but I’m pretty sure if I asked him to articulate it based solely on my observations of what he does and what he says he would say something like this … Positive masculinity, being a successful man means knowing who you are, managing your life well so that you can include another human in your life and you can be a positive addition to theirs, making others around you feel more confident, secure and positive about themselves. At times helping to carry whatever burden needs to be carried whether it’s hanging art on the wall, fixing a leaky toilet, talking out a work problem or working through our own emotional crosswires. When times are good, making people laugh, making memories, and celebrating life’s small and large accomplishments. Above all else, being kind, having fun, and being a net positive in a relationship is the secret to a happy wife and a happy life. I’ll sum it up by saying this we went to a theatre production of what the constitution means to me and the premise is that the constitution has not protected women like it was supposed to. He left feeling bad, I asked him, he said, “you know, I’ll be fine, I’m a straight white guy, but many people I love aren’t going to be ok and that upsets me.” <— that right there is positive masculinity. this young man has dated about 10 girls in 3 years of high school and he’s on his 4th legit girlfriend. Only one girl refused to keep seeing him, he’s been the one to break up with them. boys and men need to up their game, what women have to tolerate has changed and what they want is more clear and it will require boys and men to up their game. but its not a criticism of masculinity its a criticism of lazy masculinity.
  13. Maybe they should name it “when the playing field is level Texas will fuck your shit up” trophy.
  14. Our preferred gay travel company does an eygpt/cairo/nile river cruise I’d love to do. I’d have to think about Oman and Jordan if not with a group. I think they did a Jordan one a few years ago.
  15. Love your neighbor as yourself is about as toxic as you can get man, don’t you know?
  16. I’ve always been a little sad the Middle East is a “dangerous” place to visit. Tehran from the way before times even Kabul, Afghanistan in the way before times coulda been epic. Far from a Middle East country but we are going to Morocco for my 50th.
  17. Non sequitur. In fact I was day dreaming about ladies beach not that long ago.
  18. Happy Father’s Day to all you miserable sons of bitches, not sure why your kids love you but they (probably) do.
  19. The medical community has flatly ignored the power of diet on your immune system function when it comes to patient care for most of my lifetime. Yeah if you are over weight and don’t exercise you’ll get a mild lecture to go with your statin script. That’s true. That’s hardly the preferred way here. Heck 20 years ago the brain gut connection was considered fringe science and only for the granola kooks. Oops. medical establishment including medical schools are to blame for much of the backlash.
  20. whether it is or isn't the current motivation it has been the genesis of the conflict that has remain unresolved for 50+ years. the conflict can migrate to take on a life of its own apart from the original motivations making it just that much more difficult to untangle. no doubt today its about radicalism, proxy wars through terrorism and nuclear capability, but hey if the West could solve those three, I suspect the West would do so AND strong arm their way into a deal for natural resources, say some oil and gas and some rare earths as well.
  21. argo fuck yourself.
  22. this is absolutely the way. maybe the only sure way.
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