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  1. 23 hours ago, Ghost of LL said:

    But let's be real fair--"Asian" is a lousy geographic description because it is so non-specific.  To give any idea what you actually mean, you need to say "East Asian" or "South Asian" or whatever. 

    The implication that "Asian" means "East Asian" brings its own problems.  It indicates that you're ignoring (among other places) the most-populous country on Earth.  And yeah--some people find that kind of offensive.

    All of which should serve as your periodic reminder that today's progressivism is tomorrow's cringe.

    In this anecdote, we're talking about a woman complimenting other women.  So I think the discussion about what we as men can or can't do in the workplace is a bit misplaced.

    But somewhat relatedly, our former partner who was the head of our employment-law section was in the office yesterday to handle some EOY benefits stuff.  She retired a year ago and hadn't seen me in at least six months.  And during that time, I've lost a bunch of weight.  So when she stopped by my office, she said "damn, GOLL--you look hot."

    Fuck yeah, I do.  I'm not eating fucking salads and spending my evenings in the gym to look not hot, after all.  But even so, that (very accurate) observation had me strutting around like a peacock all afternoon.

    And it occurs to me that we shouldn't forego compliments that are going to validate someone's efforts for fear that the person may have a condition that only a tiny percentage of the population has.  

    Besides--in my experience, people with IBS make sure everyone around them knows about their IBS.  They're a little like vegans in that way.

    First, congrats on the weight loss. I agree that compliments that validate hardwork and an appealing appearance can be a very positive emotional and mental experience.

    I think the problem is less about offending the 1% with a condition and more about drawing attention to the 99% who used to be fat and sloppy. Especially when our experience tells us more of these people are going to lose the diet war and end up as fat or fatter than they were originally— though I guess with the diabetes weight loss drugs maybe that’s changed now.

    Whereas you felt great and validated and your ego was tickled by being complimented for the weight loss and didn’t consider that the comparison being made was that you used to not be hot to this person and probably most people who aren’t your wife, others like someone from the last page, feel bad about themselves because they hear insults to how they used to be ugly and fat and unacceptable in attractiveness. 

    I would hypothesize that it is a man/woman thing and gender privilege is at play but we had a guy on this very thread express this very sentiment on the last page, so I think sensitivity to whether commenting on weight is a compliment or a “backhanded” compliment is unique to each individual.

  2. Mortgage pros and bros- does anyone have any recent experience with a Home Equity loan?

    Assume I am easily qualified (DTI, LTV, etc.) and that I've compared a HELOC and Home Equity Loan and decided on the loan. The questions I have are,

    Did you go through an e-commerce website or online lender or a traditional bank or mortgage company?

    Assuming a bunch of these companies are like refinancing and want to hammer you with fees, what is the cheapest way to source one of these loans while minimizing costs and fees?

  3. Long story short, my Son in Law works for a company he claims who has a history of doing some gray area things and he's about to go on paternity leave and thinks there is a chance he could get axed while on leave.

    It happened to someone else he knew but his colleague thought it was gray area enough to not pursue legal. He's wanting to prepare in case this happens as he's thinking of taking the max amount allowed, which is 75% of his full pay for 24 weeks and wants to be ready if there is retaliatory shenanigans with a flimsy excuse. Of course I'm not certain, but he tells me he's in good standing, had good reviews, never been written up or dinged...

    He's in Denton but any law firm in the metroplex would do if you have a good recommendation and want to vouch.

  4. On 5/10/2023 at 8:06 PM, chikin23 said:

    In May of 2018 my legs started hurting. It was a dull aching pain that felt like they were just sore (I had played basketball several times that week) but the pain kept getting worse and worse. A few days later I was in a meeting and my hands, arms, and legs felt like they were on fire. I had no strength in my hands or extremities. I was sitting in a meeting and tried to pick up s pencil and couldn’t grip it. My boss sent me home and I had to loop my arm through the steering wheel and pull myself into my truck. I vividly remember getting home and an Amazon package being delivered. I went to open the door and couldn’t even turn the door knob (we had childproof locks on them).

    My wife came home and I was curled up in the fetal position on the floor. She drove me to the doctor, he did all kinds of tests and I was diagnosed with polymyositis. My arms and legs ache for the most part nonstop and I’ll occasionally get a tingling/burning sensation in my hands and feet. I take medicine for it has stayed under control for the most part. I’ve never felt the pain I did in 2018 and still don’t have any idea what brought it on or caused it.

    I just saw on my newsfeed that Peter Frampton has myositis 

    Guide to switch broadband deals
     
     

    Peter Frampton is on his final tour after ‘troubling’ diagnosis of incurable disease

    PETER FRAMPTON, 72, has been on his live performance finale The Farewell Tour years after being diagnosed with a devastating disease that causes muscles to waste away.

     https://www.hopkinsmyositis.org/gift/peter-frampton-myositis-research-fund/#:~:text=The Peter Frampton Myositis Research,to ultimately find a cure.

  5. On 5/10/2023 at 8:20 PM, Judge Roybeanbag said:

    So when I was like 14, I started vomiting and having this whole thing, getting put into the hospital because has to be food poisoning. Nope.   It’s this thing called Heriditary Angioedema. There’s a drug that can fix that.  Costs $40k per month.  Haha. 

    I can beat that. I have to take a drug 2x a year that costs $60k a pop, so $120k a year, according to my insurance EOB.

    Oops you said $40k a month or $480k a year. You win.

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  6. 2 hours ago, chikin23 said:

    In May of 2018 my legs started hurting. It was a dull aching pain that felt like they were just sore (I had played basketball several times that week) but the pain kept getting worse and worse. A few days later I was in a meeting and my hands, arms, and legs felt like they were on fire. I had no strength in my hands or extremities. I was sitting in a meeting and tried to pick up s pencil and couldn’t grip it. My boss sent me home and I had to loop my arm through the steering wheel and pull myself into my truck. I vividly remember getting home and an Amazon package being delivered. I went to open the door and couldn’t even turn the door knob (we had childproof locks on them).

    My wife came home and I was curled up in the fetal position on the floor. She drove me to the doctor, he did all kinds of tests and I was diagnosed with polymyositis. My arms and legs ache for the most part nonstop and I’ll occasionally get a tingling/burning sensation in my hands and feet. I take medicine for it has stayed under control for the most part. I’ve never felt the pain I did in 2018 and still don’t have any idea what brought it on or caused it.

    Same. Except the usual meds didn't work for me and I had to stair step to the most aggressive and expensive one and the jury is still out (though I'm stair stepping down from prednisone these days, too, slowly but surely).

  7. As someone who has been on Prednisone, at a very high dosage (40-60mg), daily for over a year, I cannot wait to be off it.

    That said, it is a miracle drug for combatting inflation. I had CK numbers in the 9000's before steroids. Got them down sub-500 (normal range is 0-235).

    From what I understand, long-term use sucks the life out of your bones and leaves you with brittle, weak bones and a risk for osteoarthritis and bone disease.

  8. On 12/30/2022 at 12:25 PM, Vegas64 said:

    Figured I'd bump this thread as it appears that IVIG is not really helping. It's interesting because I'm on "good therapy" for the majority of people with this illness with IVIG and prednisone and methotrexate (CellCept has too extreme of side effects)-- so next step is Rituxan if insurance will pay for it. My doctors are concerned that they won't pay for it but it's the only thing they think that can stop the lung involvement which has become serious in rapid fashion.

    Anyone have any GOOD experiences with their insurances helping with expensive therapies for AID?

    Thought I'd update this-- I finally got the insurance company to approve the Rituxan. It was a pain and took a lot of time and appeals, but from what I've read, it's really good to stop and repair the lung involvement (ILD) with my auto-immune.

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  9. I searched and didn't see one. Especially for first time founders, do we have one? I'd love to read through people's experiences as a first time going through things like pitch decks, VC-meetings, resources and websites or consultancies that helped, legal, cap tables, incubators, the whole thing.

    I know being Austin-focused probably half of us have started something, at some point in time, and I realize that times are tough now compared to the heady days of pre-2022 for starting something, but general wisdom is the best time to start a new business is during a downturn in the economy?

     

  10. On 7/6/2022 at 3:23 PM, MoJames said:

    Dermato and Poly are the only 2 that are treated with IVIG. Both tend to respond well to it. IVIG is expensive, but generally without side effects. It is a huge amount of fluid so you want to be careful with someone dealing with cardiac output. Generally very effective for both.

    Figured I'd bump this thread as it appears that IVIG is not really helping. It's interesting because I'm on "good therapy" for the majority of people with this illness with IVIG and prednisone and methotrexate (CellCept has too extreme of side effects)-- so next step is Rituxan if insurance will pay for it. My doctors are concerned that they won't pay for it but it's the only thing they think that can stop the lung involvement which has become serious in rapid fashion.

    Anyone have any GOOD experiences with their insurances helping with expensive therapies for AID?

  11. 14 hours ago, Slacks said:

    This is the CR I was used to...  Y'all almost had me...  I posted some tldr. Entered into a brief conversation...

     

    But this shit right here...  This shit right here, shaggy... This shit... It's called, "Death."

    I got the Kat Williams reference, my ba-rother.

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  12. I understand what the pedant Roma is saying because it was the most cringe, telegraphed "twist" that the King was going to announce the Hand's daughter in that dramatic fashion and surprise. Yawn. Boring. Predictable and lazy writing. Also Daemon seems to be written inconsistently for my tastes so far.

    Otherwise, it's decent, I love the costumes and set pieces and production value. I don't mind the slower pace, I like the intrigue and politics as much if not more than the scifi dragon cgi crap.

    Ser Cristen is being set up to be Grey Worm or Jorah or the long haired daenyrios (sp?) a la strong, loyal and good protector to Rhayenra's (sp?) Dany.

    5/10, will watch ep. 3.

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  13. The question is now, will it stop here? Or can it be extended or built upon (higher threshold of income, more forgiveness, etc.) like how the student loan deferment has been.

    Like most have said, a one time jubilee is great but it's not going to change anything fundamentally and we will need to do this again since nothing chnages.

    I disagree with those who think this will be an inflationary event though-- the people getting this and make under $125k were not servicing that debt anyways as they haven't been legally obligated since the early days of COVID-19. That money earmarked for servicing the $10k in debt was already circulating in the economy.

  14. 50 minutes ago, GopherRock said:

    "I suffered, therefore you should too" is not, and never has been, a good answer.

    That is fair, but also having zero sympathy for others who did suffer and did the right thing and made painful sacrifices, whatever the situation not just this student loan situation, just had "bad timing" is also not a very emotionally healthy or empathetic approach.

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  15. Sucks that it was means tested, but hey, it's a step in the right direction. And I agree that probably there was actuary concerns that could have made this unwieldy and cost prohibitive even going from income of 125k to 150k as the previous poster mentioned.

    I wonder why it wasn't just 10k cut across the board no matter what. That was my expectation and hope, at least.

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  16. 4 hours ago, Pancho said:

    Starting to come out: Canceling $10k for borrowers making $125,000 or less and extending repayment pause for 4 more months.

     

    I hope the means testing part is a bad translation of the rumor, I haven’t seen anything about the 125k leaked by anyone official looking, at least.

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