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  1. My mom and my husband share a birthday, both really love fishing, and have never done a chartered trip (due to general frugality). I'd love to surprise them with a double date trip, but I don't know if either would enjoy it knowing it cost thousands. Are the little bay trips worth doing for $600? We could go anywhere, Port A to SPI. 

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    4.5 or 5 cubic feet, agitator, no lid lock, no extra bullshit
    is such a thing even possible?
    no, no it's not
    front-load washers prevent precise chem control so they are unpossible
    the only top-load washers i can find with no lid lock are speedqueen tc5x series which are all 3.5 cubic feet so that takes out the no lid lock requirement
    any new comments or experiences in the last 9 months?
     



    No I think you’ll have to pick two of the features. I happily forego an extra cubic foot of volume in my speed queen in order to have zero digital components. Dirty to dry in an hour.
  3. I’m a lazy idiot and didn’t pre-figure our taxes before 12/31. There’s no other non-IRA way to reduce tax liability after the year-end is there? We both are covered by retirement plan at work so we can’t do a previous year IRA contribution.

  4. I paid $1250. My friends and I have all used him before and been happy with his work. I reached out to let them know I wasn’t happy with it and why. They apologized and said they would get back to me.

    Realistically what are my options? Should I just paint it? Or return it and risk burning a bridge? I’m disappointed with more than the species. It just doesn’t look very well done— super blotchy with visible planing marks. Drawer mechanism seems wonky too.

    I honestly don’t consider myself super picky, and I definitely bear some responsibility for not asking more questions and drawing up a contract. (In retrospect I think I was reluctant to do anything that would slow it down because i ordered it in October and it took several follow up texts to get any movement on it all.)

  5. I took delivery on this custom vanity an hour ago, and I am realizing now that I am pretty disappointed in how it turned out with respect to the inspiration image I sent the carpenter.

    The color of the stain doesn't necessarily bother me per se, but the prominent wood grain makes it look rather rustic, when this tiny powder room is probably the most formal room in my house. The cabinets have a noticeable gap as well. 

    Can someone take a guess at what type of wood this is? Is there anything that can be done to make it look a little less country? I guess I could paint it, but I'm annoyed as I paid extra for stain grade wood. 

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  6. Another thing that has me scratching my head--

    I went to a giant 6A school in Texas that had multiple DI athletes in a few sports and even multiple professional athletes. I knew literally zero kids on any varsity sports team as they were celebrities. Here in our smallish city all of my friends' (white, upper-middle class) kids play varsity sports at the 4A and 5A schools. I'm guessing there's a huge difference in the large metropolitan schools vs the schools in smaller cities, and less of a difference in the 1-3A schools. 

  7. 1 hour ago, jimmyjazz said:

    Not too late, but she should probably pick a sport or two and play select.  Find a coach who has placed kids in college and listen to what that coach has to say.  I saw too many "seventeen D1 head coaches will be at this soccer tournament" that had zero actual reach to believe many club coaches know what they're doing.  And, go to camps at schools she's interested in by end of soph or early junior year.  This stuff moves fast.

    I know the trepidation -- club sports cost money.  It doesn't always have to be horrible, but we paid ~ $400 for gear and something like ~ $300 monthly, and that was cheap, especially for the quality of club.

    time is the primary reason we have not considered club sports. are club sports in cities with <100000 people really legit? 

  8. 1 hour ago, F250 said:

    I have some experience with this when my oldest went through college baseball recruitment in high school. He had multiple D1 offers for partial scholarships in mid-major conferences. Ultimately, the juice wasn't worth the squeeze. The schools interested didn't meet what he was looking for academically. His younger brother was actually better and had more interest but noped out of the idea the summer before his senior year. No interest in the commitment required.

    Exactly the feedback i was looking for!! thanks. 

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     What sport does she play and how does she compare against high competition at the club sports level? Even lower end college athletes at the DIII and NAIA are pretty talented and filled with good athletes.


    She plays everything we offer. Volleyball, cross country, basketball, soccer, track, tennis, powerlifting. Her favorite is whatever season it is. She was state mvp for basketball but I don’t consider that her best sport.

    I have no idea how she would stack up against high competition club sports athletes. I don’t even know if my smallish city has that. She is better than the other girls on her school teams that play club sports.

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    How tall is she?


    Small. 5'4" and probably mostly done growing.

  10. I am finding myself doing what I said I would never do, that is exploring what it would take for my kid to play sports in college. I’m not talking D1 or anything, but after sending my oldest to college, I like the idea of a coach monitoring her attendance in class and her grades. She is a diligent student but has moderately severe dyslexia and average intelligence. Based on PSAT performance her sat/act scores will be below average, so I’m wondering if playing a sport could help her gain admission as well if she is a borderline candidate as I expect she could be.

     

    1) how do we even know if this is possible? We often have strangers approaching us telling us that she should play in college, but we have always blown them off presuming they are trying to get her to play on their select team (a world we have never considered due to having five kids).

     

    2) she goes to a newer small private school (c 200 alumni) and no one has ever played college sports. Is there something the school would have to do? To this point all of her coaches have been volunteer parents.

     

    3) what sport would be a good place to start? She loves them all, and is almost immediately the best player on any team no matter how new she is to the sport. I can’t imagine her successfully competing against kids who have been playing select soccer, basketball or volleyball for years, but, then again, she does and she does great.

     

    4) Im definitely not objective, and small private school sports is not that great of competition. So it seems like if we had college caliber athletes in our league, they would be going on to play in college, right? Should I just put this out of my mind? I don’t want to put any ideas in her head where she’d feel disappointment if it didn’t work out, or worse that she had disappointed us.

  11. Thanks for weighing in. The letter apologizes for violating the reasonable boundaries established by the victim in adulthood, but not for the abuse in childhood and adolescence that prompted the boundaries. In some ways the letter itself is a violation of the boundaries, because the victim went no-contact after the most recent violation.

    (The boundary was meeting only in public places, but the abuser went to his house with another family member to visit his children when the victim was not there. The letter apologizes for that, ie Im sorry I did not respect your wishes not Im sorry that I molested you.) Is he maybe differentiating in making amends those actions done under the influence or not?

    I am encouraging him to work with a therapist in deciding if and how to respond.

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