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  1. This mofo has gotten lazy over the years. He used to stand at the door till we let him out. Now, if we don't get there fast enough, he just lets out one of those dog sighs and lays here and stares at us till we take pity on him. Mind you, he has enough energy to bark nonstop at the guy replacing the neighbors' upstairs windows. Priorities.036d57eef0772d577efd2842effa0e35.jpg


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  2. On 3/26/2018 at 8:39 PM, slorch said:

    fuck hurricanes.

     

    scourge of the earth when it comes to weather.

    I will say that at least we know they're coming a few days out. Tornadoes scare the shit out of me especially considering we don't have basements.

    On 5/14/2018 at 2:18 PM, WBT said:

     

    I assumed he was joking with the Ireland reference.

    On 5/21/2018 at 6:40 PM, The Tower said:

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    Are you kidding me? My parents are moving their RV up to Crystal in a couple of weeks - they leave it there all summer. I'm still surprised it has never gotten much damage these last few years.

  3. 11 hours ago, gsoda3 said:

    how was it? i applaud your willingness. have you been to 99 ranch at lamar/airport?  i like it better than hmart for most things. 

    It was delicious. I have not been to 99 Ranch - I'll definitely check it out.

  4. 14 hours ago, mycox said:

    I thought I had the patience for a gumbo roux. No way I could do a proper ramen or pho.

    Making roux is way more hands-on than making ramen broth. With roux you're stirring the whole time and if it burns you have to start over. Pho is a bit more work than ramen because the broth needs to be skimmed and strained so that it's clear. Ramen can be cloudy, so that right there eliminates the constant skimming while it cooks. If you're home all day, it's cake. You're just adding and removing different components to the pot as you go along.

  5. Haven't read this whole thing. My college roommate's dad was the mayor of Santa Fe back in the late 90s-early aughts. Spent some time there with her. It's a sweet little town close to the Gulf, much like where I grew up. I'm so sad and tired of all this. I don't know what the answer is. I don't know what will fix it. I just know that whatever fixes it will be change. Something different from what we're doing/not doing now. I know this because we have yet to do anything that has helped. It's getting worse, not better. I'm sad and tired and sick that sending my kids to school and my husband to work makes me nervous.

    As someone who has lived with depression for almost the last decade, and who has several family members being treated for it as well, I can say from experience (as can many of you) that treating mental health is terribly complex and treatment success varies wildly among individuals. Because of this, it seems like limiting access to firearms, or certain kinds of firearms, has a much better chance of bringing down the number of mass shootings in the short term. But what the fuck do I know. My love to everyone in Santa Fe.

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  6. Pork belly out of the oven. Once it's cooled a bit I'll wrap and chill it for easier slicing later. I'll save the rendered fat for other stuff later. I added a spoonful to the dog's food bowl and now he's looking at me like I'm the second coming of Jesus.

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  7. I’m listening.

     

    Also: you can post pics direct from your phone if you use tapa.

     

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    Ohhhhh I did not know that. Thanks! Above is the dragon fruit.

     

    Pork belly rubbed down and ready to sit overnight.

     

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    Pork butt ready for slow roasting this morning.

     

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  8. Also picked up some dragon fruit for dessert. Just scraped it out of the shell. Soooo good.

    Would've posted a pic but imgur is getting on my fucking nerves right now.

  9. I love pho, ramen, basically any type of Asian noodle soup. I went through a pho phase a while back and worked on my broth recipe until it was perfect and I could freeze a bunch for pho whenever I got a hankering for it. Once the broth is done it's just a matter if pulling together the toppings and voila, you have a tasty bowl of comfort food I prefer over chicken noodle soup any day.

    I visited Momofuku Noodle Bar years ago (in NYC), and got the cookbook last Christmas. It wasn't until now that I thought I'd tackle making my own ramen the David Chang way. (Except the noodles. I may be a glutton for punishment when it comes to cooking complex shit, but I do not have it in me to make my own noodles at this point.) So, this afternoon, I went to the new HMart in NW Austin, stocked up on everything I needed and began working on the broth around 2 pm.

    First, put two sheets of dried kombu into a stockpot filled with 6 quarts of water. When it comes to a boil, turn off the heat and let the kombu steep for 15 minutes. Remove the kombu and add 2 cups dried shiitakes. Bring it back to a boil, then simmer gently for 30 minutes. Remove and reserve for another use. I sliced up the kombu to add to salads and am going to pickle the shiitakes. I did not think to start taking pics until after this point, so here are the shiitakes and kombu after doing their thing in the broth.

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    Next up, I cut the backbone out of a chicken and cut the rest of it into 6 pieces (left in the wings for my purposes). Saved the backbone to make tare' with later.

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    Added the chicken and let it simmer about an hour. When the chicken was falling off the bone, I removed it and set on a carving board to rest till I could pick the meat off the bones. The chicken bones went to hang out with their brethren, the uncooked backbone, and wait for the tare' to get started.

    As the chicken was simmering, I heated the oven to 400 and loaded up a baking sheet with 5 lbs meaty pork bones - I did a mix of neck and back bones. Roasted those suckers for an hour, till they were a lovely brown.

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    Roasted bones went in next, along with 1 lb bacon. Bacon simmered for about 45 minutes, and I left everything else to simmere for ~6 hours, maybe? About an hour till the end, I added a bunch of green onions, chopped carrot, and two onions, halved but not peeled (onion skins give the broth a great color).

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    I'll pull it off heat in about 30 minutes, strain, and season with tare (like japanese bbq sauce; a mix of mirin, sake, soy sauce, all cooked with roasted chicken bones.) Tomorrow I'll work on the pork belly and pork shoulder for toppings, while the broth waits in the fridge. Will post more pics then.

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    16 hours ago, slorch said:

    I would agree that neither one of you have.  Austin girl's perspective has been particularly objective and helpful.

     

    When I objected earlier in the thread, it was to the phrase of 'rape culture'  and the tendency of people who use it to be off the deep end when it comes to interactions of men and women. Neither of you have posted with that attitude/ opinion.

    I jumped the gun, but it was because of a couple different recent real life interactions with people who act like every freaking dude out there has either raped a woman or promotes it in some way.

    " Well I've never raped a woman, made one feel uncomfortable in my presence( with regard to safety,) or remotely encouraged anyone to do so.  Oh, and I've demonstrated said behavior to my 2 sons and raised them to do the same."

    "Well all men are guilty on some level or another.  This rape thing happens to 125% of all women.  You should be castrated. #metoo!!!"

     

    yeah, I exxagerated their response, but only slightly.  neither of you belong in that group and I apologize for any appearance that I felt that way.

     

    I really appreciate this. I know we disagree on a lot but the discussion here has been great.

    20 hours ago, Shmitty said:

    Damn, you could tell it was me?  Sorry, but the preachy-hi-horse, anti-male attitude doesn't jive.  And no, that doesn't mean I condone how some men treat women.    

    I'm not sure if you're serious about knowing it was you, but yes, you can click on the green or red number in the bottom right corner of a post and see who all likes or dislikes it. You should also get notified if someone reacts to your post or quotes you, and the notification panel shows you who is reacting.

    Anyway, I'm genuinely curious as to what you found to be high-horsey and/or anti-male. I've been married to a guy for 15 years and am raising two boys. I, as I'm sure is the case with most everyone here, have a lot vested in working through these issues, and have found the conversation in this thread to be very insightful.

  11. 14 hours ago, chainsaw said:

    I think most women also understand that if they accept a drink the polite thing to do is at least give the guy a chance to talk, so that he does not feel like he was being conned (even though there's no guarantee that a drink will even lead to a conversation).  That would also mean that the polite thing to do is to decline any drinks that are offered by men who have zero chance with you, since accepting the drink would basically require you to talk to a guy who has no chance (wasting everyone's time) or to make him feel conned.  

    Yeah, I'm cringing just imagining accepting a drink from someone and then ignoring them. It's just ...mean.

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    Honestly I think the real problem is that men are not properly trained in handling rejection.  They grew up on movies with impossible odds being overcome and the geek, dweeb, fatass "gets the girl," often through persistence (which in the real world is stalking and is terrifying).  I can't think of a single example of a popular movie or TV show where the main character has strong feelings for a woman, gets rejected, and he handles it in a mature way.  Sometimes the guy doesn't get the girl, but 10 seconds later he ends up with someone much hotter (500 days of summer is one example, although JGL is hardly unattractive).

    This is spot on. Last night Animal House was on, and I'd forgotten about the scene where Amadeus is making out with the girl from the grocery store and she passes out, and the devil on his shoulder is telling him to fuck her because she wanted it anyway. He doesn't, but God. 
     

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    What I don't understand is that some of these people aren't even obese guys without jobs.  They're regular guys.  Maybe not even virgins.  I have no idea what their deal is.  


     

    Because those aren't the top of the priority list for many (maybe most) women. So what if you have a job and don't look like a goblin? It doesn't mean shit if you're an asshole, and it's usually not hard to figure out if that's the case.

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  12. 8 hours ago, F250 said:

    James Franco is borderline Steve Buscemi unattractive.

     

     

    Bite your tongue, sir.

    9 hours ago, chainsaw said:

    James Franco isn't exactly unattractive and he been slept by #MeToo.

    I don't think ALL sex is transactional.  There are social expectations of politeness that surround accepting a drink, but there is no strict rule that you have to accept every drink someone buys for you or that you have to decline the drink if there's no chance in hell of a date (or of fucking the buyer).  That doesn't turn everything into a transaction.

    I agree to a limited extent that men should probably approach it from a transactional perspective if they want to improve their chances.  Maybe focus on the attainable women at the bar, since your time is a limited resource and so is your budget for buying women drinks.  But also there are more ways to get laid than by approaching a stranger at a bar.  How many people out there got married to a high school or college sweetheart?  Or to a co-worker?  Or a mutual friend?  No "first drink" required there.  Just basic attraction.  She does not "owe" you anything.  Especially not any feelings of attraction.

    There is also no guarantee that if a woman declines every drink offered to her that she will never get an unwanted advance.  These advances can happen in the workplace, they can happen on the bus, they can happen literally anywhere.  Some of these are harmless, but some ARE also sexual assaults.  The fear is real, and there is no way to differentiate between an unwanted advance that will become a sexual assault and an unwanted advance that won't.  That's why it's such a problem.

     

     

     

    When y'all are talking about transactional sex, do you mean while in the dating world? Or also when people are in committed relationships?

    In some situations I think it could accurately be considered a transaction. But still, "transactional" implies that the individual parties agreed upon the terms before closing the deal. That doesn't happen all the time, especially if you're getting to know one another. If I go out on a date with you, and let you buy me drinks and dinner, and by the end of the night find you to be a pig, I don't owe you sex or a kiss or anything. I appreciate your generosity, but no, I don't owe you shit just because you paid for my meal. It's more of a gamble than a transaction. On both sides.

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  13. 4 hours ago, Fondren & Main said:

    Bad advice, mom.  You gotta take the Lionel Hutz route for this.  A playful stop is not the same as STOP!

    Sure, but a preschooler can't easily discern that. They have time to learn the nuances of interacting with women. (Well, as much as one can.) For now I just want to get across that no means no.

  14. 3 minutes ago, Neonmoon said:

    In my opinion, the issue is too complex for general condemnation. I agree with your sentiment that no one should be subjected to any contact that is unwanted. At the same time, in my experience that might be impossible. I have been aggressive and I have been passive. Sometimes a woman wants the aggressive behavior. Sometimes a woman wants the passive behavior. Some behaviors works for some while at the same time offends another woman. I don’t want to cause anyone any harm. I don’t want to subject a woman to unwanted harassment. However, I am not told in advance what each woman desires. In hindsight, or in conversation with friends, women have told me they enjoy an agresssive man, a confident man, one who takes control. The same can be said for the passive friendly behavior. Again, I understand that there is a piece of shit guy out there that doesn’t care, uses women like objects, and  is rapey. I am not trying to say many guys are not terrible rapey pieces of shit. That exists. I am just trying to say it’s not a black and white issue, and sometimes in my experience, some aggressive flirting has been welcomed. A little slap on the ass, could in fact be welcomed, depending on me reading the signs correctly. 

    I get it. I think the safest path is to not default to aggression at the outset. Sure, some women enjoy it, and you can probably read body language and whatnot to see if that's their thing. Of course, some women send mixed signals. Or send the wrong signals, just to be an asshole. You (the general you) can't help if you wrongly interpret what someone is thinking. You should be able to tell, though, when someone is truly telling you to stop.  

    I don't envy anyone (man or woman) in the dating world these days, that's for sure.

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  15. 3 hours ago, slorch said:

    The raising your kids to respect others piece?  of course not.

     

    Starting the conversation was undertones that all men want to rape women is.

    But no one thinks all men want to rape women. At least no one in this thread. That's not what rape culture means. Honestly, I don't love the term either because yeah, there is definitely a spectrum of harassment severity and rape is one point at the far end of it. The idea is to address the false sense of entitlement embodied to an extreme extent by these incel idiots. And really, a lot of older women don't help anything. I was talking to someone my mom's age recently about this kind of thing (I'm 36, for reference) and she said something along the lines of "Oh, sure, sometimes you may get a slap on the ass but that's just how some guys are. You can't get up in arms about it."

    Well...I disagree. If you don't care if someone slaps your ass without invitation, that's your prerogative. But women as a whole should not be told that it's something they need to just deal with, nor should they be afraid to call someone out on it. And this sentiment isn't unique to the woman I was talking with - I don't know how many times I've heard some version of "boys will be boys." Boys are capable of not being assholes. Like anyone of any gender, they just have to be taught what that means, not be let off the hook because of some lame excuse about not being able to overcome their base urges or some shit like that.

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  16. 8 hours ago, heso said:

    Jesus. I have a daughter who’s about to turn 2 and that article makes me afraid to ever let her out of my sight. 

    She's who we're having this conversation for. I guarantee that 99% of the women you know have examples like those in the article, if not that extreme, but maybe we can lower that number for the next generation.

    I have two boys and have always worked to get it across to them that if anyone tells you to not touch them, to stop touching them, to get out of their space, etc, you immediately stop. No questions asked. My youngest likes holding hands, giving hugs, and so on, and it's a good teaching opportunity when a friend doesn't want to. I'm sure there's more we could do, but I think it's helping for now.

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  17. 6 hours ago, slorch said:

    people who use the phrase "rape culture" tend to believe what I said.

     

    Every swinging dick should feel that guilt.

     

    It takes something everyone SHOULD support and makes it divisive as hell.

    If your problem is the term then you could try suggesting something else and attempt to positively contribute to the conversation. But I suspect that the root of it is that you just don't think rape culture (or whatever you want to call it) is actually a thing. 

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  18. I first heard of these guys after the Santa Barbara shooting. So delusional. And creepy, honestly. 

    This is my favorite "she doesn't owe you anything" article. Spoilered because long.

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    Dude, enough with the entitlement. She doesn’t owe you shit.

    Why are you telling her to smile? Are you owed a smile? No, you are not. You aren’t owed shit.

    I had a guy ask me for my phone number when I was getting out of my car to get gas. I told him “I’m sorry I have a boyfriend.” So he slit my convertible top open while I was inside paying. – Amanda

    She doesn’t owe you a smile, a wave, her phone number, a date, a second date, a kiss, a blowjob or a fuck. It doesn’t matter if you complimented her, bought her drinks, took her to dinner, gave her a ride or made her a mix tape. She doesn’t owe you shit.

    On a date that was going not too well I decided to leave. Dude followed me to my car and pushed up against me trying to get me to kiss him. When I said no and tried to get away he said “fuck I bought you a beer.” – Amber

    Even if you married her and paid for everything it doesn’t give you possession over her body. Slavery is illegal, and marital rape has been against the law in all 50 states since 1993.

    “I tried to fight him but I couldn’t land a blow from being so drunk. When he was done, he put out two cigarettes on my thighs. I asked him why, and he said, “you owed me and you shouldn’t have fought.” – Anon

    I keep saying “you,” but perhaps it’s not you, because #notallmen, amirite?

    For the truly good men, realize that I’m using the royal “you” in this context for effect. If you too are sick of the way women are treated like pretty things to be possessed, please keep reading, because these comments contain lessons all men must learn.

    And now, back to our regularly scheduled rant.

    When I was 19, I had consensual sex w/ a guy a little older than me, and it was great. Til he wanted to go in the backdoor and I said no. To which I was flipped over, held down by the back of my neck and told “You have to learn to listen”. – Suzzett

    She doesn’t owe you an explanation as to why she doesn’t want to go out with you. She doesn’t owe you conversation. When you catcall her she is under no obligation to acknowledge your presence, because she doesn’t owe you shit.

    I run outdoors … the catcalls, sexual remarks etc happen almost every day. Just last week, this guy blocked my path to start talking to me … he complemented my running and asked for my number. I (very politely) told him I need to get back to my run … and then the insults started. I had to push him off the path and run fast just to get out of there. – Sue

    She shouldn’t have to explain that she has a boyfriend, or make one up. “No” is a complete sentence, not the beginning of a negotiation process. If you continue to pursue her, she doesn’t have to eventually give in to your “charms.”

    Numerous times…Meet a guy, exchange numbers, light flirting by text, into unsolicited d*ck pics, into “you saw mine, let me see yours”. When I say that’s not really my thing, he’s gets super pissed saying “that’s not fair.” – April

    This isn’t what you’ve been conditioned to expect. You watched Leonard pursue Penny on Big Bang Theoryand it worked out for him. Kevin James had two babes in Zookeeper and has a hot wife in King of Queens, and he’s not even rich. The nerd got the girl in Revenge of the Nerds via outright rape. Guys getting the girl via relentless stalking has happened innumerable times in movies. Getting back to the banging on Big Bang Theory, the weasel-like Howard has a hot wife and on a recent episode the overly nerdy Raj is alternating between the beds of two beautiful women.

    Just because I was a drunk 13 year old who stupidly allowed you to fondle me did not mean you had the right to then fuck me when I said no and cried through entire experience. – Natasha

    It’s enough to make any guy thinks the world owes him a model or three. But it doesn’t owe you something, and neither does she.

    Many women live in fear of guys who pursue them, and many are practiced in deescalating. They’ve been hassled and catcalled and groped and stalked and even assaulted. They’ve been told to smile and insulted for their looks and called a bitch and a slut and told to loosen up … and much, much worse.

    Had a guy pull up to me in his car while masturbating when I was 18 and on my courier job. A friend/coworker had the same guy approach her and when she called the police, the dispatcher just laughed. – Stevie

    They have been treated like possessions by strangers as well as by men they know so many times that their lives can’t help be affected by it. Some are desensitized, and others become hyper sensitive. So what can you, the good man, do about it?

    At our neighborhood pool in my bikini because I feel comfortable wearing one. Neighbor I barely know asks me how many kids I have, I told him 3, and he looks me up and down and proceeds to comment on how good my body is. I don’t care what the fuck he thinks about my body! Ewwwww!!! – Stacey

    Stop turning a blind eye. Believe what women say, and admit that rape culture is a real thing. I know some people call bullshit on that term, but after reading the comments in this piece what the hell else would you call it?

    In marriage counseling with a Christian counselor. My then husband complained that I wouldn’t have sex with him anymore. The counselor looked me in the eye and told me my marriage wouldn’t be falling apart if I were fulfilling my duties as a wife. – Kristine

    Call out rape culture wherever you see it. Don’t be a bystander to such harassment. Help make the harassers feel harassed and perhaps they’ll rethink it.

    After one bad date, he parked outside of my house for weeks, following me every time I left the house. The police were not helpful. – Heather

    Be an ally to women, not just another adversary. They get enough crap from police and security guards and church leaders and parents and significant others who think they were asking for the abuse. Don’t participate in victim blaming. Put the blame where it belongs: on the perpetrators.

    A guy I (briefly) dated in my 20’s berated me for an hour because I didn’t swallow. Like ingesting his semen was supposed to be some kind of honour. I think he thought it was a gift he was giving me. He actually called me ungrateful. – Sarah

    These comments are from me asking for examples of harassment on my Facebook page. I didn’t realize what I was in for, thinking I might get a dozen replies. Was I ever wrong. Reading through every word of the several hundred responses, many sent via private message, was a daunting task that made me feel sick.

    My church leader told me I had to forgive the person who sexually abused me. And I had to repent for having seduced him, when I was six. I was told if I didn’t forgive him, he’d go to hell and it would be my fault, and that I owed him the freedom that being forgiven gives a person. – Polly

    This article includes only a sample of the comments / messages I received. I would ask that you endeavor to read as much as you can to gain better understanding into this rampant problem. Also, a follow up article was written based on the many comment this piece received titled “Feminism And The Men Who Refuse To Understand.” It’s worth checking out.

    Thank you in advance.

    When I was 18 I moved in with my boyfriend out of love and financial necessity. It was my first sexual relationship and started out consensually, but soon became forced several times a week. I would beg, “not tonight” and was told, that I lived in his house and he pays a larger portion of the bills (I was in college full time) and this was expected. – Amanda

    Family friend offers to drive me home from college. Whole 4-hour ride home (he took the long route) I am fighting off his hands being in places I don’t want them. – Niki

    I was just starting my career in fire/rescue and one of my substitute instructors began calling me and asking me to meet him outside if class as well as using me to demonstrate how to physically assess trauma patients. When I refused his advances he began giving me failing grades. – Shannah

    When I was 21, a man at least 40 years my senior asked me if I had a fat pussy while out at the bar. When I looked at him in what I’m sure was complete surprise and disgust, he proceeded to tell me he could tell through my pants that I had a fat pussy. – Becky

    I hooked up with this guy once and later saw him at a party where he kept grabbing me in a hot tub and asking me to “sit on his lap”. I said no and kept moving eventually getting away from him. He found me in a room then blocked the only exit, not letting me out until I had sex with him. – Ellen

    That time I went on a date and when he drove me home, I didn’t want him to come up. So he raped me. I then told my priest who said it was my fault for tempting him. I’m an atheist now. – Tanya

    When I was in college, I went out on a date with a friend. Despite my protests, he insisted on paying for dinner. He became furious when I wouldn’t go back with him and have sex, insisting that it wasn’t fair because I “owed” him sex since he paid for dinner. – Elizabeth

    Once when I was in college wearing a short shorts on a very hot day an old man said to me “open up let me SUCK it…but make sure you wash up in the river first” That felt so dirty and nasty. – Marsha

    My life has unfortunately been riddled with harassment from men starting when I was 7 and it has ranged from unwanted comments and requests from boys to molestation to catcalls, being followed, obsessions and even assault. – Melissa

    On two separate occasions guys have whipped their dicks out after giving me a ride home. Mere acquaintances. – Sandy

    One time I was at the bar with a friend; we were chatting at a table when two men approached us. One of them then proceeded to rub my arm, uninvited, and asked me to dance. I moved my arm and politely declined. He persisted. I declined again, a bit more firmly. He became more aggressive in his pursuit, raising his voice and attempting to use his physical presence in an intimidating manner. I finally snapped: “I don’t want to dance with you! Fuck OFF!” At that point, he spit on me. – Shashanna

    If I wanted a better shift (bartender in college) I needed to “date” the manager. – Keri

    I’m a lesbian. Was out in public with my girlfriend. Man asks us to kiss each other so he can watch. Asked for a threesome after I told him to fuck off. – “Scruff”

    At a church youth group. 15 years old. Older guy groped me. Tried to force me to kiss him. Very shaken, told the leaders, was blamed because my belly was showing a little & I dressed “alternatively.”– Hani

    I have a neutral facial expression (a.k.a. resting bitch face) and I am constantly told (by men) that it wouldn’t break my face to smile. – Andrea

    If I turned down sex, my ex-husband used to tell me it was my “wifely duty” … Then he made me do it anyway. He genuinely thought he was being kind afterward when he’d pat my sobbing shoulders a couple times and thank me for a job well done. – Heidi

    20yo – I’m in the military. Everyone wants to either fuck me or harass me for fun. I am entirely defined by my gender. – Lauren

    “Erin, you have really nice legs. When will you be wearing a skirt to class next?” – my high school computer teacher. In front of the whole class. – Erin

    Online dating … The unsolicited “dick pic” has become something that you have to actually state UP FRONT that you DON’T want or it comes whistling into your messages. These are usually followed by “let’s see yours”. – Maureen

    I once turned a guy down for a second date so he stalked me for two years. – Samantha

    It makes me really sad how, often, the last defence we have is to say we have a boyfriend, whether that’s true or not. Like your desire to be left alone is only valid if another guy has perceived “rights” to you, it’s not enough that you don’t want this person’s attention. – Jodie

    I had a former soldier try to use his service and unpleasant experiences in Iraq to guilt trip me into going out with him. It’s amazing how quickly his “traumatized warrior who just needs love” shtick turned into “bitter misogynistic curse-spewing douchenozzle” after I turned him down. – Sarah

    Asked me why I wear my hair so short. Told him I liked it that way. His parting salvo was “because guys prefer long hair on women”. Hurrah for unsolicited advice from random fuckfaces on the street. – Julia

    Last night, on my way home from the train station, a man smoking out his window greeted me with “Evening” as I walked past. I smiled slightly, trying to be friendly/prevent further interaction/get home. Which got me called “stuck-up fat cunt!” – Jennifer

    I was walking from work to the bus stop one afternoon when a guy pulled up along the side walk and leaned out to talk to me. He said how pretty I was, had nice hair and asked me my name. I responded as I always did, “Thanks, my guy agrees,” (whether I have one or not); he then yelled at me “just asked your name you fucking fat bitch!” – Kimberley

    When I was 15 I was cat-called and ignored it. When the guy was unhappy about this, he walked over and asked for my phone number. When I ignored him again, he beat me up until I had a concussion. – Kelsie

    If I crash on your couch, you do not have permission to grope me while I am sleeping. – Bethany

    “I have condoms. And we (group of 10+ guys) want to test them and you are the lucky one.” (I did not feel lucky.) – Chantal

    My brother tried to sell me to a dope dealer for a night because he owed him money. – Julie

    I ignore a man’s so called compliment “hey beautiful” and he punishes me by throwing his milkshake at my back. – Ellie

    My ex husband was under the impression that so long as I was “his” wife he was owed any amount of sexual favors he deemed necessary. – Amanda

    I used an online dating site, and took a friend to meet a guy. After meeting him I wasn’t interested, told him so, and stopped contact. He proceeded to call me a stuck up slut who led him on and who deserved something for his efforts. – Catherine

    My supervisor at work asked me out. Every day. For two years. While we were alone in his car on our daily trip to make bank deposits. – Amber

    I developed early and had breasts at 11; my face was still that of a child but that didn’t stop many drivers slowing down to make some disgusting comments. To this day I still freak out when a car stops by me when I’m walking. – Sara

    I met a guy once; he got into my car and refused to get out until he could cop a feel. He said kiss me or show me your tits. I said I would scream if he didn’t get out. He lunged toward me and I laid on the horn. He still managed to cop a feel. Asshole. – Sara

    When I was 12-13, I was molested by a family friend for 2 years. – Sara

    I have been groped 7 times while shelving books. – Jill, a librarian

    I was on the subway and some dude kept hitting on me. I told him I wasn’t interested and turned around. Guy grabs my butt, so I shove him back. He then smacked me across the face hard enough that I actually stumbled backwards. – Kaleena

    Or the guy who tried to speak to me and I ignored on my way to the toilet who followed me and blocked my path exiting the toilet to ask why I was so rude ignoring him. – Kathryn

    I stopped taking public transportation because of men. – Rebekah

    Walking into Target a guy continued to catcall me, whistle and try to get my attention. I ignored him and continued walking without making eye contact. Then he finally said, “f u you whore, you ain’t that cute anyway.” – Crystal

    Ahh the days of the C train..I’ve had more than my fair share of hands and hardons rubbed on my ass. – Tiffanie

    Guys (even friends ) being pissed off when I cut my hair. – Patricia

    I’ve been catcalled too many times to bother trying to count. (I’m not even old enough to drink yet.) – Juliet

    When I was out with a friend in Paris at age 19 a group of men approached us and then one grabbed my head and pushed it towards his crotch and they all started laughing. – Jennifer

    Random guy coming and hugging me several times … I called security. They said he was a good-looking guy, so why wouldn’t I just go along with it? – Patricia

    Just the other day I was out running and two guys stopped JUST to leer/watch me run by and said “Helloooooo” as I ran past – forcing me into the middle of the fucking road to get by them. – Stevie

    So many times. Even now, in my mid-forties, I’ve gotten comments about how I shouldn’t wear loose clothes because apparently, people are entitled to the spectacle of my butt. – Patricia

    Apparently having visible tattoos gives strangers the right to touch you. – Melissa

    I’m a lesbian on a gay dating site that seems to get a lot of straight men posing as lesbian women. I get way too many dick pics. – Ari

    A guy saw my extensive chest piece, breathed “whoa, nice tattoo,” and yanked down the front of my shirt to get a better look. He did not understand why I was upset, and was very defensive, as if it was perfectly acceptable behavior to pull down a woman’s shirt to her sternum. – Ariana

    When I was 18 my boss (grocery store) stuck his hands down the back of my pants and asked it I liked it. – Lindsey

    A long-term close friend pulled out his penis and held my hand on it until I started screaming. – Zoe

    I don’t like having to ‘smile’ in order to get my order and pay for my eggs or coffee. – Nina

    A guy (I thought was a friend) helped me once to get out of the house I had been living in with an abusive partner. He let me stay on his couch and one morning tried to rape me. He said after all he did for me he earned it. – Anon

    I’m carrying three bags of groceries home one day and this guy on a bike rides up beside me and asks if I need help. I say no thank you, I’ve got it. He calls me a bitch and says that I should be grateful that any man offers to do anything for me. – Danielle

    My former boss pointed at me, in front of his wife, and said “That’s going to be my next wife.” As if I was simply property that he could claim. – Andrea

    He told me to hang up my ongoing phone call so he could get my number. When I told him no and that I have a boyfriend, he got angry, accused me of making up a fake boyfriend, and pointed out that I didn’t have a ring on. – Christine

     

     

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