Posts posted by Sandman
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20 hours ago, Bernard said:
At what point do Americans wake up and confront the fact that cops are compulsive liars and simply can’t be trusted? The lies they tell even when they KNOW the cameras are rolling is simply astonishing.
Bernard
You're right. With those kinds of atributes, these people should be in congress.
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12 hours ago, ztejas said:
@SandmanI smoked a shit ton of weed in high school. Fortunately never ran into any legal issues or got caught at school (then again I didn't actually smoke at school but spent most of my senior year high at school).
First, your daughter isn't a dumbass. She's 17. Every 17 year old is a dumbass in one way or another.
Second, what consequences is she facing? Is it a school suspension type situation without legal charges? If that's the case I'd just make sure she learns from her mistake. That doesn't necessarily mean bringing the hammer down, but just making it clear that weed is still illegal (in this state, or in any state at her age) and if she makes the decision to toke then she needs to understand the potential consequences.
I've been through a lot of shit - most of it in college - but nipping it in the bud is the best you can hope for (no stupid pun intended). Tough that her mom is a smoker - but seems like her mom/your wife should at least understand the ramifications she might face if the trend continues (I don't like how much weed I smoked in high school - I'd really caution against enabling that or letting it slide). I'd hope it doesn't hurt her chance at getting into school where she wants, but one mistake at 17 tends to be pretty forgivable if she can shape up and take it as a life lesson.
Not trying to inject myself into your family dynamic (or give parenting advice), but I am recently out of the woods on all of my various high-school, college issues with the cops/administration so I feel like I have a decent perspective here.
Your daughter doesn't have to be a burn-out because she got popped at school, but that isn't a great first step and you would hope it doesn't turn into a trend. A better head on her shoulders and a good work ethic and this can hopefully be a one-time thing that ends up being a relic of the past. There are a lot of things like this that I have successfully put behind me (well, if you really want to get into it, I've done much worse shit).
It ain't going to help her admissions process - I'll tell you that much (highly doubt she doesn't have to disclose this one on applications) but it might not be that damning considering the current environment - especially depending on which schools she might look at. Some schools might see it as damning, some schools might brush it off.
Definitely feel free to PM me. I did a lot of SAT/ACT tutoring while I was in college (1550/1600 SAT and 710/800 on the GMAT) as well as giving general advice for getting through admissions (i.e. essays, how to present yourself, what helps/what hurts). I've helped dozens of kids with their scores on tests and written letters of rec to get young-ins into selective high schools.
If you're worried about her potential opportunities post high-school graduation I can give you a lot of pretty sound advice. And not looking for compensation at all, happy to help or answer any questions for a fellow Surly'er.
Cheers
Thanks for your reply. I'm not too worried about everything as this point. She's a good student and has a plan for college and her career, which is more than I can say for myself at that age. She left campus with a friend to toke up in a neighborhood behind the school (dumb). I guess this is a common thing for kids because a resident called the cops to complain. Cops showed up as they were leaving, followed them to the school. She got 3 tickets, which is my main concern. Living in an extremely conservative state, you never know what penalty a judge might lay down on you.
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Shitty update: My dumbass kid didn't learn anything and was busted toking up at school. WTF. I'm more embarassed than mad but I'm still pretty upset about it.
I'm telling myself that it's not the end of the world, that there's lots of parents dealing with this, frankly dealing with much, much worse. It doesn't help me very much. Her dopehead mother isn't exactly clutching her pearls. I'm worried she's gonna be excited to maybe find a weed buddy. FML.
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18 hours ago, horn4life said:
What's the harm?
I tend to say yes ma'am and sir, regardless of age, and sometimes I feel as if I may be offending some middle aged women. However, that's there issue not mine. I think for young kids it's simply giving them a foundation of decorum. the fact that every adult they come in contact with is a man or a woman who can (and should) be addressed formally. I also open dorrs for everyone and tend to let folks into traffic. i'm also no country bumpkin but you don't have to lack teeth to have good manners! 😉
I will call most men "sir" if I think they're actual adults, as in college aged and up. For women, I use "ma'am" if I think they're married adults or over 30, I go with "miss" for those I think are under 30 and single.
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10 hours ago, Pato del Muerto said:
To be fair, many bottled waters with fancy names are sourced from some local municipality and then filtered a couple more times.
Evian and Fiji are more the exception than the rule.
Speaking of, Evian started this whole bottled water scam. When’s the last time you’ve seen a bottle of it?
CSB/ One time when I was 8 or 9, I made a pitcher of kool-aid using the bottle of Evian my mom had bought just for her. She was not amused.
My evian-aid tased great, though.
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2 hours ago, Onboard 2.0 said:
If it's busy I'll go thru the self check w/ a whole cart of groceries (not often I'm buying a whole cart except at holidays and for parties). I can go thru the line as quick as a cashier...
Every self check I've seen has less space on the platform than the shopping cart. So eventually, I run out of room on the platform and I can't start putting the bags in my cart, lest I get the "Please return items to the loading area" message. And if you try to skip bagging, it stops you and you have to wait for Jethro or Lurleen to come over and type in their secret code. So I save the self check for when I only have 2 or 3 things.
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7 minutes ago, Wally Fairway said:
Pictures of your wife would help us decide ...... just saying (took 4 posts to get to it, surly is slipping)
In all honesty it is more of a southern thing. Growing up in the Midwest, older neighbors, bosses, teachers, etc were Mr or Mrs Smith/Jones/Kowolski but not sir or maam
My parents were from the Midwest (Indiana & Iowa) and I was raised to say Sir & Ma'am.
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Edited by Sandman
2 hours ago, Telegraph_it said:My wife changes what purse she uses for the day frequently. As a result, she cannot manage to keep track of her house key. The key is not attached to the car key because reasons. This has caused her to be locked out of the house on numerous occasions. We now simply do not lock the house. I had a caveat that at a minimum we set the alarm but doing that is too complicated apparently (thankfully mobile app solves this for me if I remember).
If any of y'all want free stuff just find my house.
My wife switches purses around on the reg. It never fails, that gift card/receipt/coupon/membership card we need at some point are in one of the other purses.
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On 1/10/2019 at 3:53 PM, Vic Mackey said:
Even if he is the last pick of the 1st rd (he won't be because that would be a Super Bowl team)
The end of the 1st round is when good teams trade with a shitty team that wants to get back into the 1st round for a QB. Then you get that shitty team's #1 for the next draft and usually, it's a high pick. I could def see a team like LA or NO trade out of the 30th pick to a team like Jax or Cincy for a 2020 #1.
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1 hour ago, El Diablo said:
Was pops in a medical setting? Those folks don't play by the normal rules.
As a matter of fact, he was. Started off as an ENT tech, retired as head of nursing services. I always saw him follow protocol at the hospital, though. He did 26 years, he wasn't one to cut corners.
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Hoosiers - When the pastor walks in front of the team before the championship game "And David picked up a rock and slung it..". Instant blubbering. My dad's from Indiana and I've heard him talk about the high school tourney all of my life.
Ratatouille - When the food critic eats the ratatouille and flashes back to his mom, making him his favorite meals. My mom died the year it was released and she was the greatest cook. My kids were 6 years old at the time and after that one viewing, I've never watched it again and I never will. It cut me to the bone.
Braveheart - The battle at the end, "They fought like warrior-poets".
Trivial Things That Make You Surly
in Lulz
My office switched to new copy paper and it's got "double the amount of recycled paper!" according to the package. It fucking sucks, feels like paper that got wet earlier in the day and is now 90% dry.