I used to enjoy the Meet up website. I used it a lot when I moved to Chicago sans any friends. I attended groups for backpacking, board gamers, skeptics, art lovers etc. Granted it was mostly nerdy guys but not exclusively and it gave me a sense of community. I even reconnected with a former co-worker at a Texas-Ex events, and now she's my ex. I watched sports in bars, went to the Viagra triangle for food and beverage, worked out regularly. That was nearly 20 years ago now...
Today, young (for me) women (25-35) do look for older men. I've found that typically 3 things drive the ones Ive met.
1) Look for a sugar daddy or baby daddy. Those 2 are not necessarily different.
2) Looking for an actual provider/protector who knows how to organize a fun and interesting evening, has a wide range of interests, is kind, isn't stupid and "is emotionally mature".
3) Women with daddy issues. This can be coupled with item 1 but not always.
4) Looking for free shit. There are a goodly number that want to be taken out by a decent looking guy to nice places and spoiled a bit. Doesn't fall into 1 because they have zero interest in intimacy or real connection.
"So, you pervert why not date age appropriate women?" you ask.
Well, they fall into the following.
1) Look for a sugar daddy or baby daddy. Those 2 are not necessarily different (yep)
2) Looking for free shit. There are a goodly number that want to be taken out by a decent looking guy to nice places and spoiled a bit. Doesn't fall into 1 because they have zero interest in intimacy or real connection.
3) Want a 6'+ guy ONLY (seriously) They won't even talk to a guy under.
4)
A - Looking for a MAGA man
B - Looking for hard-core Liberal
(I'm not being funny. It's like their profiles are recruiting tools for those parties. Its the FIRST thing in their profile. Then several talking points to the parties come after don't be X or Y)
5) Looking for a provider. Not 1. These are women who, in their 40s-50s have kids out the house, often have their own homes, but want to get married, move in together and live happily ever after and never work again. Some of these dates are like fucking job interviews. Seriously.
6) Complete messes. From no cars, to no jobs and drug addictions. Because I dont do drugs, I've had a LOT of women decline to even go on a first date because me not drinking would make them "uncomfortable"