Yeah, still haven't opened a trust, but I may do it once I get mom moved. I did confirm that I could make a trust with the durable POA we got, so that's good. I have gone to 2 of her banks and dropped off the POA and can now move money should I need to. Seems like every week has been a doc visit or a assisted living tour. To be honest, she's really enjoyed going out. I think that being mostly alone at home was way too unstimulating.
We have picked a place, paid the fee, and are gathering stuff to move. The big day will be in a week or two. Have ordered new bed, mattress, linens, etc. Took her to Target for some stuff today. It's a lot like packing of a kid to move into a dorms, and I think to her similarly exciting/scary. I'm not totally sure she is able to fully pack for herself, so that might be a day or two itself. But I keep telling her (amnd myself) that we will keep the hiuse for a but, so we can go back and forth and get stuff as she realizes what would be nice to have on hand.
Hopefully all goes well with the move. I'm pretty sure she will enjoy having people around. And I'll feel better she is getting better nutrition and getting checked up on. Lots of things didn't surprise me about the cognitive assessment, but one thing that did was that she could not recall how to call fire/ems/police. I mean... if she can't call 911, she needs to be somewhere.
I also wonder about a medicaid facility being crap, but I think part of the calculation (self delusion?) is that by the time a dementia patient is on 24/7 nursing, they are just a shell. The spark is largely gone.