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Ojo Rojo

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  1. I don't really know, but I don't think so. Most of the hitting situations were sort of spontaneous and I think caught most of the other kids by surprise. At this age I think most of their instincts were to get upset, not hit back. I think I understand why you are asking though - could he have learned a lesson and stopped the behavior if there was a negative physical consequence? I'd like it to be that simple; to be able to change behaviors like this with negative consequences. That's the hard thing about this; kids, or maybe people with psychological conditions in general, don't necessarily behave rationally. So punishment or negative repercussions of any kind don't really work.
  2. Thanks for all of the responses. It helps. We're getting the full battery of tests done. We finished it today, actually. The testing is hard on the kids because it basically drives them to frustration level intentionally to see how they respond. He was angry when I picked him up. I took him to a toy store to look around (trying the Breakfast at Tiffany's therapy) to get him to calm down and change his mood before taking him back to school. He did have a mood change after about 10 minutes. I thought it was safe to take him to school. It wasn't. He was still agitated and he didn't last 10 minutes before he hit a kid. That's when I got called and they broke the news to me when I picked him up. Right now we're just waiting for the test results so we know the next step to take. We're researching education options - public and private - to try to learn what is even available. It's impossible to know what to do without a diagnosis. We've talked about the home-school thing, but it would have to be my wife and she doesn't want to give up her job and we need her salary. We could do it, but I think it would be very hard on her and we'd have to make some big changes. My son appears pretty normal. He communicates well and has a good vocabulary. He looks me in the eye when we talk and he has an emotional connection with me and his mother. It's hard for me to say how he is in school or in public or with others because I only really observe him when he's with our family. I have gotten a couple of glimpses. I was watching him and his little brother at a playground recently and he didn't interact well with the other kids. He didn't know I was watching him. He got in a scuffle with one kid who he claimed had made fun of his name (I don't think that actually happened and according to my wife he has used that as an excuse before). He hit or started to hit a couple of other kids on the playground and I had to call him down and then threaten to take him away from there if he didn't stop. Other kids seem to set him off. Like he gets nervous and starts lashing out. It might be overstimulation. He doesn't really seem to have any friends right now, though he gets along well with certain kids when it's just 1 or 2 in a group. We don't think it's autism. At home he does great. He doesn't eat what we want him to eat and will only eat a few select things, but otherwise he obeys. He plays well by himself. He plays with his brothers and roughhouses. He's playing t-ball now and doing well with it. He can do schoolwork and reading and math with us at home pretty easily. I know I'm jumping to some conclusions and fearing worst case scenarios. I do that. I have been told and have read that kids with these kinds of issues who have engaged, loving parents who do what's necessary to help them have good outcomes. I also know that a lot of the people living on Skid Row started out with problems like my son.
  3. My kid was asked not to return to his school today. Private catholic school, kindergarten. He's been having behavioral problems since he started school last fall. He had problems in Pre K too. The school was willing to deal with certain things like running out of the classroom, hiding under his desk, being generally noncompliant. They weren't willing to tolerate him hitting other kids. They did for a while, but when other kids' parents started to complain the administrators' hands were tied. The first thing that happened is they recommended that we retain him. That was early February. That was a kick in the nuts. Then we had to come pick him up during their recess period so he wouldn't hit other kids. That was the time when it mostly occurred. Finally today he hit a kid with his backpack right when he got there. That was it. It would be really easy to be angry with the school and blame them for a lot of it, but the truth is that they tried. They didn't handle everything perfectly, but at the end of the day they are not the problem, my kid is. We had him in group therapy sessions last fall and that seemed to help some. When things started going off the rails this semester the group therapy sessions were full so we had him go one on one with a therapist. No visible change. We initiated the full battery of diagnostic testing to determine what's wrong with him. We just finished that today and we won't get answers for at least a week. I'm pretty much freaking out. My wife and I have been doing a helluva lot of work to keep him in this school and to get him to at least be able to stay at the school during the day. He just can't do it. No matter how much we cajole, reward, threaten, love on him. Nothing works. He just can't do it. my wife and I are both exhausted and scared. I am really worried about his future. In the immediate term, we have no idea what to do with him now. Where do kids who are expelled go? We got him a spot, mostly as a favor, from the pre-k where he was before for the next two months. We don't think he can go back to the same school. We tested out the public school we're zoned to for our oldest for kindergarten and I was not impressed. And for a kid with issues? I just can't imagine it's going to be better. But then again, I've been told that public schools have more resources for this kind of thing. It's really a black hole for me. We know of and have been told about private options. They sound great - for a cool 40 grand a year. That might be out of our reach unless we make some drastic changes to our lifestyle. I'm really struggling with this. Just knowing what to do and handling it...I don't even know where to start. I'm trying to show support and love to my kid; that's all I really know to do. I'm terrified about the future. What if he just can't be in a traditional school environment? Will he be able to get any kind of education? What are his prospects for going to college, getting a job, having relationships? I'm feeling pretty helpless and really scared for my kid. Anyone have any experience with this?
  4. Maddens, you say? My house is walking distance from there.
  5. I proudly say that I have never eaten at Applebees. I pretty much stay away from corporate restaurant food altogether. I worked at Bennigan's in college and I think that pretty much cured me.
  6. You gotta be able to tell the difference between coach/player speak and anything of substance. The whole "build a contender" thing is what he has to say. I wouldn't even call it dishonest, because implied in that is: "If they pay me max value for a long-term deal." Correa is going to try to make the most money possible, regardless what team will pay it to him. As he should.
  7. I'm not buying the "ghosted" narrative. Frankly, it doesn't serve either party here. I think that is made up drama by the media and I'm not a 'fuck the media' guy at all. I don't hear Boras or CC pushing that narrative. There is inherent tension in these negotiations. The Astros didn't want to lose Correa and I don't think Correa wanted to leave Houston. Correa needed to maximize his value and some other team was willing to take more of a risk on that value than the Astros. That's it. No one did anything wrong.
  8. Matt Anderson. Former Tigers pitcher. I happened to catch a couple of games he pitched in '98 and he hit 103 on the gun, which impressed me. He was never as good as his rookie season.
  9. They don't need to do shit else until the trade deadline. If we're a playoff team then buy from the sellers. Who knows what injuries and performance issues will dictate we will need at that time.
  10. Humans are strange creatures. You can do repugnant sexual things to women against their will and still get $230 million if you can throw an oblong ball accurately to a running man.
  11. Why do you think he never intended to return? He seems to have ride-or-die type friends on the team - Machete, Altuve, LMJ among them. I never detected any friction with Dusty or the front office.
  12. Curious, why? Never met him, but know his family a little bit.
  13. Dude. Bad idea jeans. I can't think of a worse combination of new home build/living with in-laws for a marriage. If you stay together I will be impressed. Also, I learned the words "mogambo" and "scrunge" on this thread today.
  14. Bravo.
  15. It's about what you prioritize. For you, the chance to win one more is worth the risk of two bad years following. That's basically playing for one year of big success. The Astros mindset is to play for longer term sustained success. No right or wrong, just different priorities. They are also trying to make money, not necessarily win championships.
  16. Do you think it was the injury history that prevented Correa from getting the deal he wanted? Is playing another year or two or three for Minnesota going to change the view of his injury history? What do they do with that $30M? Use it now (and on what)? Save it for the trade deadline to stack a contending team? Don't spend it, period? Hookers and blow?
  17. This hurts, no doubt. I loved CC. Thought he was really tough and a good leader. He stuck up for the team during the sign stealing scandal and I'll always respect him for that. I'll also always love him for the homer against the bitch Joe Kelly. My takeaway is this: Carlos did what he wanted under the circumstances. Obviously no team offered him the 10/350 deal he wanted. My theory on why that offer never came is the risk due to injury history. So he kept his powder dry and his options open. He's betting on himself. Can't fault the guy for that. The numbers should have been very doable for the Astros, but the opt outs were a bridge too far, I'm guessing. I honestly don't blame the team. I wouldn't want to be playing that guessing game every year. How can you possibly plan for the future that way?
  18. I think he meant he hasn't had turf toe during his entire period playing for Texas, not that he's never had turf toe while at Texas. In other words, there were times he was playing without turf toe, so why didn't they do it during those times.
  19. I guess I've been fishing for a good, facts-based response. I was hoping someone knew something about government benefits and what was available then versus what is available today. I know the basics; that's all. The "stimi" and the federal addition to state unemployment benefits ended a long time ago, as far as I know. It may have been true that some people could live off of those government benefits for a month or two back in 2020. I don't think that could be the case today, but again, I don't know for certain and was hoping someone could fill me in.
  20. So then it may be partially true that some people are relying on government assistance rather than going to get a low-paying job that doesn't make much financial sense? I haven't seen any numbers or reporting on the number of new assistance claims. I was tracking new unemployment claims for a while. Even if this is the case - more people living on government assistance due directly to the condition of low wage jobs and cost of living - conservatives still have an ignorant and angry approach. They don't understand, or care to even consider, the reasons why the situation exists. Or, they do kind of know the answer but they can't bear to admit it or they bury their heads in the sand and pretend it's not true. To most of the conservatives I know personally, entitlements/govt. assistance/welfare is their #1 gripe. They just hate the idea of undeserving people getting their money. Even though "undeserving people getting their money" is an incorrect and overly simplistic explanation of what is happening.
  21. Understood and agreed. So what are they doing for money? How are they feeding and housing themselves?
  22. Okay, so what are these people who choose not to work shitty, low-paying jobs doing for money? This seems like a Peter Gibbons-type of move: "I don't like work, so I'm just not going to go anymore. I'm not going to pay bills either." That makes for a funny line in a movie, but reality is a little different. If you don't pay any bills you end up homeless. If they aren't sucking on the govt. teat and they aren't working, what are they doing for money? Something just doesn't add up here.
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