This. Very much this. My wife has had a really hard time lately because of how bleak it has gotten. I've tried to encourage our family to be the change we want to see. We are so very lucky to have what we have and there's so much suffering out there. It's up to us to make things better. We can't always worry about what's happening at the macro level that we have no control over other than our one vote. We can help the people who are at the miles long food line on Garland Road near our house that we see twice a month. We can take time to clean up White Rock Lake that we love. We can try to help the homeless, who there will only be more and more of since everyone is pushed to the brink. We can be kind even to those who may not deserve it.
Now, the 2nd half of our post. I don't know if I agree with that. We're a nation founded on violence. We've used it throughout our history. We've had hate throughout our history. Native Americans, slaves, immigrants, people who "didn't belong here". This is nothing new. At least we're not committing wholesale genocide of these people now. We do it in other ways now like cycles of violence, poverty, drug addiction, hopelessness. But again, that's why it is up to us to help when we can.