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eljinca

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  1. Caps with another epic meltdown. Laughable.
  2. Gooch get more playing time than Altidore ever did at Sunderland.
  3. Also, Tequila, if you can find them, watch: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Educating_Peter https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Graduating_Peter They may be a little outdated now, and were more in my brother's generation, but chronicle a family raising a young boy w DS from elementary school through high school graduation.
  4. A couple of things: 1) Puberty can be bad, especially for girls. Most of the terrible stories I've heard from parents of my brothers peers were with teenage girls who didn't understand why they couldn't date or why they were different from other girls. 2) If possible, find a local community that has good services for adults with intellectual disabilities. Resources are typically allocated at the county-level, and counties can differ wildly in things like case-managers, group homes, etc. My family chose one county over another due to this and has remained there for 20 years. 3) Get involved in local government and schools. My mom was at my brother's middle school so much complaining about the lack of job training they were offering that they hired her to do it herself for the special ed department. There are county boards for adults with intellectual disabilities. The more involved you are, the more you can affect change - and things can actually change locally. Support local legislators that are allies. 4) Start early with estate planning and legals. This can be expensive, and obviously depends on means. My family spent considerable amounts of money on family planning lawyers before my brother turned 18 so that everything was in place with guardianship and making sure my brother has everything in place should some disaster befall both of my parents or his siblings. We actually had to have doctors testify that he does, in fact, have DS. Lawyers for the county had to come, assess if there was any abuse taking place and ask him where he wanted to live when he turned 18. They told him that there were other options than living with his parents (he had no clue what the woman was talking about and asked to go back to watching a movie). It's all very trying, expensive, but absolutely needs to be done if you are in the position to do it.
  5. I'd also add that your second point is correct. It definitely teaches you patience and empathy very early on in life - which I think is a good thing.
  6. My brother and I were always incredibly close. I'm 2.5 years older and I never had any thoughts about it, to be honest. I was always very much watching out for him and making sure no one said anything or did anything to him. Luckily only had one unpleasant episode. Frankly, I felt as far back as I can remember, that if someone made anything difficult, fuck them. I think the thing for you and his siblings is to accept him for what he is and what he likes, not what you would hope him to be. Many times I've argued with my mom that she forces him to do activities that she wants him to do, as opposed to his interests (going to prom, for example, wasn't something he knew existed until my mom decided he was going.) He is incredibly happy being around family, going out to eat, having ice cream and watching about 10 disney movies that he loves. It also depends on behavioral and health issues. My brother has been very lucky, without any major health issue. Communication is challenging, and has been forever. He didn't speak until he was 5, and learned sign language prior to that. Some of the other kids I've known in his cohort would have been very challenging for parents and siblings.
  7. It's always something I worried about. We lived and grew up in fairly affluent upper-middle class areas and had almost no problems. My brother was in fully normal, integrated public school classes until he was 14, when he clearly couldn't keep up with the work. I think it's incredibly important for anyone with a developmental disorder to be around other kids their own age without any challenges. The only issues we ever encountered were a few kids continuously stole his gym clothes from his locker in middle school since he didn't know how to use a lock. Never did this in front of him. Wound up just keeping his clothes in the teacher's office after the third time.
  8. My younger brother has DS. He's 31 now. Ask away.
  9. Hard to take much from last night, but good to see some prospects get capped. So many of these guys will be different players in 3 years time. Steffen is definitely the future in goal. He's not Neuer back there with his feet, but he's infinitely better than Howard or, gasp, Guzan. Liked what I saw from Miazga and CCV, although I was shocked at how short CCV seemed compared to Santander. CCV is listed at 6'1" and Santander at 6'2". CCV is build like a brick shithouse though. I think the two of the and Brooks is a solid, young core to build on. Tyler Adams looked great. A definite future. Was more impressed with Delgado and Saief than I anticipated. Weah has a world of potential. I don't get the Wil Trapp love. He's a tidy player, no doubt, but he's already 25 and I can't see him playing a role going forward with USMNT. Seems like a revision of Dax McCarty - key MLS player, but can't make that step up. Rubin and Novakovich just need games, especially Rubin. Hard to know what they have. I will enjoy DeMarcus Beasely starting in World Cup 2022 with a walker, as our long trek through the desert to find a left back continues. Villafana is not the answer for the future.
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