CSB Time: My ex girlfriend and I got in an argument a few years out of college. I used to have anger issues, (but never physical) so it got pretty heated in our apartment. Yelling etc. She snapped and threw everything within arms reach at me. A vase, glasses, shoes. She had quite the arm. I tried to leave, she punched me, spit in my face and scratched my face and arms while trying to block the door. I grabbed her arm to stop her and then retreated to the bedroom door and locked myself in. Which she tried to force her way through unsuccessfully. Our neighbors rightly called the cops. Cops come and she's calmed down by then and had cleaned shit up enough. At first they wanted to take me in because her wrist was red. My ex had sensitive skin, beard stubble made her face or nether regions red. I definitely didnt try to hurt her in my defense but her wrist was red because of me. I thought for sure i was going downtown. I got grilled. Then they noticed all my wounds and scratches. They pivoted to wanting to take Her in. I was able to explain that I was in construction framing houses" "see these were from today, here are older wounds from earlier in the week". They bought it. Got a warning to not have another call and urged to get counseling. Scheduled counseling, played the reconcile all is well game . Got my own place and moved out while she was at work a few weeks later. Did not give her my address. Her response verified the decision. -The instances when a man should touch a woman are extremely limited and rare. We are bigger, stronger and more frightening in general. Just don't go there short of her having a weapon. I have never laid hands on a woman short of stopping my ex from scratching my face and I still almost went to jail. If I was in a high profile job at the time I'd lose it. Period, even from the neighbors talking. -I was an an angry 24 year old and still didn't abuse back; it's a simple redline. CB fucked up. Lots at stake which makes a breakup or domestic strain that much more intense for both parties, but he should have never engaged. - Fellas do not engage an angry woman for any reason. Especially in a 3rd floor apt with only one exit point -If a woman gets physical in anyway, fucking leave its too risky. -Chris Beard fucked up and is done here.