I feel you, we're going through the same. I can't imagine any way this gets better without answering republican violence in kind, and that might not make things better. But it can't be worse than just rolling over for them. The hope is if enough of these people pay the ultimate consequences for their hate speech, others may start to fear putting out hate speech.
I see no way freedom of speech in any real form survives, and the best case scenario seems to be trump kicks it very soon and most of these people just lose interest after that when JD Vance shows them he's just another Washington suit.
We will never get pre 2016 America back. The majority of us will always look at our neighbors, coworkers, and anyone we stand next to in the store with side eye and suspicion. But we need enough stability to function as a society, and unfortunately American apathy in the wake of trump's demise would be the only thing I can see buy us a little time.