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UpperWestside

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  1. This is not from a society wide perspective, but only my own experiences. One of the best ways to understand society around you, as well as making a positive contribution to it, is to be engaged with people. One of the things I feel is important is that everyone should at some point in their existence is to work in a service industry job. Learn to communicate with your fellow humans. Learn how to be compassionate and care for others. While self-care is extremely important so is how you relate and show care and compassion to the world outside of your bubble. I can also say that this does not come natural to me. Being able to be around people for hours at a time takes a mental toll on me that causes me to just go home and say and do nothing. The wear on an autistic mind from constant people interactions is a lot for me at times and is way more mentally draining than it is for a neurotypical person, but I do it. I am content to just hangout with my two dogs after a long day. However, when I am around people I make the effort to now communicate even when I am not working. Just simple interactions and conversations that will remind you that you are just one of several billion people on the road of life. Last week I helped a woman carry luggage up the subway stairs. I could have hurried up and left her to do it on her own. Taking the time to help this elderly woman made for a pleasant interaction between us and made both our days better. I talked a few minutes after to a guy while I was waiting for some fresh coffee at a bodega on my way to church. We talked about his car being side-swiped a couple of hours before by a likely drunk driver (Hit three total parked cars). I said that perhaps he should be thankful this happened because what if he had gotten in his car and something else had happened while he was driving. His car was damaged, but he was okay. That perspective helped him feel better about what transpired. Have those conversations with people. The smallest of interactions can be the most beneficial thing you do in someone else’s day. Make doing this everyday be a permanent part of who you are. You’ll be doing your small part to be kind.
  2. Working in restaurants means I come across many folks who drink, drink and drink some more. I haven’t had a drink in more than three and a half years now. When I figured out my susceptibility to liquor and why I drank it made sense to me why it happened. Sorting out having autism and how I could put being neurodivergent to better use than drinking put me down a path I thoroughly enjoy. I did not drink my entire adult life, but it was enough of it to realize nothing good would come of continuing to drink. When I put it down in January of 2020 I just walked away and never had a desire to drink again. That isn’t how it works for everyone when they stop and I realize that. It can be hell for people to leave it behind. I listen to folks I work with talk about how they drink and use different drugs and go out all night etc. I never, ever talk down to them or try to tell a bunch of stories. I just listen and tell them they are capable of doing better with their life and to value who they are. Just treating g a flawed human being with care is how we should be treating one another because we are all flawed. Being kind and positive to folks who do not yet fully understand what drinking can do them is how I feel most comfortable in approaching it.
  3. Someone will pick it up after the strike ends.
  4. No friend he did not. Everyone assumes Rush Limbaugh died. I’m here to tell you that Senile Joe has him in one of those camps this very moment with JFK Jr and he has Rush making pain medication 7 days a week that he cannot ever use. The man is just sadistic. I heard all this from Q and I have no reason to doubt them.
  5. The process to how we arrived at this point is an interesting one to study. If anyone believes that this is something that just transpired history shows that we arrived here through a variety of factors going back decades. There is no single thing that has us where we are. I will say that technological advances have contributed greatly, but every single passing generation will tell you how much more friendly we used to be as a society. Good old days syndrome is the best way to say it.
  6. Looking at my account it appears that the original is on Britbox. It’s 6.99 a month. Real treasure trove of shows on there. I am going to start a thread later for all of these shows I have seen that I would like to recommend. Just some great acting in these three shows, but so many more shows as well. Also the prequel has Anton Lesser playing the police chief. He was Qyburn in Game of Thrones. Allam, believe it or not, was in two episodes in season one of GoT. https://gameofthrones.fandom.com/wiki/Illyrio_Mopatis
  7. Yes. I believe I got it with the PBS Masterpiece APP or the Britbox one. Both are worth the subscription though.
  8. Seen every episode of all three shows. I absolutely loved all of them. Sometimes I catch myself saying “Mind how you go.” Was DI Thursday’s line. There are some interesting tidbits about these shows as well. In the final season of Inspector Morse one of the bad guys in the 3rd to last show in the series is played by Roger Allam. Allam is DI Thursday in the Endeavor series. John Thaw’s (Inspector Morse) daughter plays the newspaper reporter in Endeavor. That’s really cool how they incorporated her into the prequel in an important way. Inspector Lewis’s real life wife was one of the victim’s in an episode of the original Inspector Morse. Lewis’s DS in the show tried to run for Mayor of London not too long ago. His character in the show is much nicer than the guy in real life from all appearances. Lewis is probably the nicest of all the main characters, by far. I love these shows from the UK. The murder mystery is something I find more appealing to watch. I cannot possibly recommend these shows more. It is worth the time to spend watching them. I would recommend watching Morse, Lewis and then the prequel. @Brothahorn was the person who originally recommended this to me. Cannot thank him enough for it. My mother wound up watching all of them as well and she loved them. She did not like Inspector Morse at first, but she eventually loved the character.
  9. I went and saw it last night. I was surprised at how much I not only enjoyed the movie, but how good it was. There was a good sized group of young Hispanic folks (mostly women I believe) that thoroughly enjoyed this one. It is cool to see a young Hispanic superhero and grandma went hard in the paint in this one. George Lopez was actually also pretty good in his role. I would absolutely go back and watch a sequel to this.
  10. Cambage seems like she sucks as a person. That no one wants anything to do with her probably makes that statement accurate. That Nigerian woman got a good shot in at her by the benches.
  11. I think that’s a pretty cool deal if they get selected. Anything that helps to grow women’s basketball is cool by me. I am not really all that interested in watching the games, but there are young girls and women that are and it will have a positive impact on their lives to watch women’s professional basketball in person.
  12. If Harden is that worried about money why doesn’t he just do the sensible thing and open up a chain of strip clubs in cities he likes? He can save on money he is handing out to strippers while still turning a profit. Seems like a winning play for a guy that loves going to them more than the sport that has made that part of his lifestyle possible.
  13. You’re going to get through this. You absolutely have to or we’re not going to have anyone to tell how exciting it is to travel to Lincoln in mid-January to players the Huskers in roundball! You are a really good guy and I want to thank you again for those memories you shared from your trip sailing to Polynesia. You have had a blessed life and you have so much more ahead of you. 🙏🏽
  14. Well I am not entirely certain that you understand what coming in hot actually looks like. That’d involve me calling you names and likely cursing at you. That did not happen and would not. Yes I do believe you use a degree of mental gymnastics in how you form your thoughts. Using comedians and old movies to drive home why that word isn’t that big of a deal is not a winning play in this world in 2023. No one lost their mind in the replies you have been given nor in the original message. The issue is that you see everything outside of your worldview that does not agree with your personal construct as an attack on you personally. You were not called an awful person for saying it. Neither of you were called that that I made that message out to. You made this deeply personal. The method in which you made this deeply personal comes across as narcissistic to me. I do not know what exactly your mental illness is and even if I did I am not going to make fun of you for it. We all deal with things. In other places on this board I have detailed my own life and what it is like to be different. I would also probably say to you that if you have endured years worth of abuse my thought would be why come back for more? If people here are truly making fun of you constantly and belittling you why do you stay? This place has people that lack empathy and say some crass things, but overall this is a nice place to open up and share stuff with one another. If you feel like you are being attacked in this message realize that is not the intent. At a certain point in life man you have to look at your shortcomings and realize what you can and cannot deal with. I know what I cannot deal with so I steer clear of it. If you cannot handle people telling you to just not use a word that is hurtful then I might not want to post in a place like that.
  15. Thank you again to those who post things from your lives here. This is still a safe place to do so and I really appreciate reading everything because it helps me continue to better understand our fellow human beings and how we operate and live our lives. I have spent most of my life just watching and listening to people (I really should get myself in gear and become a social psychologist) because I find it to be one of the most interesting things I can do. All of you are amazing in your own way. Please keep sharing the details of your lives when you need to. You never know who you are helping.
  16. You also take what your GM is offering. As a fan of the Purple and Gold, I know what an albatross of a contract looks like with Street clothes and his deal. Brown’s deal, and Tatum’s to come, guarantees they have no shot at winning anything other than meaningless division titles. There is just too much evidence showing these two cannot get it done when it matters. I concede they are both nice guys, but you don’t hand 60 million a year to a guy like this. You just don’t.
  17. Aside from being a miserable person, which can in large part be blamed on the tree taking away his ability to walk, it seems he decided to make sure others also suffered. Taking out his anger on the least among us, as well as the precious gift that is a child, seems to be where he is comfortable inflicting pain. I know this isn’t for everyone to believe, but if he doesn’t get repaid in full in this life I believe he will in what is to come. I believe hell has a special place for the Abbott’s, Limbaugh’s, Hawley’s and Trump’s of the world. I eschew violence, but if I saw him on the roadside on fire I’d be hard-pressed to not look for more gasoline to put on his fire. Sending an innocent child to their death is something he should be reminded of for all eternity.
  18. Well you see the children have already been born. Caring about the child ended the minute they exited the birth canal. Three year old dies on a bus in the beginning of their life? WELL THAT’S JUST THE COST OF DOING BUSINESS. What an awful human being representing a truly horrific voting bloc. I can set aside many things, but one of the things you cannot let pass is a child dying because of the cruelty of an aging dictator wannabe. He truly deserves everything coming his way.
  19. This is where I am at. While the founders were obviously hypocritical clownfrauds, it does not mean that we can’t take these words and apply them to the fullest extent in America in 2023.
  20. I heard something yesterday that I was not counting on hearing that is in this vein. A black child, no more than 6-7 years old, was on the train with their mother leaving the beach. We get off to switch trains and the white train operator is taking the 2 or so minutes they normally take before continuing down this line. The child, out of nowhere, says “He’s taking too long. I’m gonna punch that white man in the throat.” The child repeated this another couple of times before the mom said why he was taking so long. That kid is hearing that at home and the child is having those thoughts reinforced with a parent not even bothering to say a thing when their child says that. I know this thread is about a white child, but man I could not believe a young child was saying something an adult has obviously normalized to them. We do such a poor job as a species nurturing the most precious gift we are given.
  21. Looks like Dellevedova is off the Aussie roster now as they are making cuts. Xavier Cooks is interesting to me as this could be a tournament where he excels of given enough time on the floor. The biggest thing I can say for the US roster is that having Jalen Brunson running the show means they will not be out of any game. Still hard to believe the Mavs let that guy go and then brought in the polar opposite of a good teammate and leader with the Flat Earth King..
  22. I have not seen this, but I am just shocked that someone from such humble beginnings, who had to drive his Mercedes up hill both ways to school, would have messed over everyone in his life. Just hard to believe with the parents he has that he would have never realized he was so privileged! Ah well go make a mint off a bar out there in the 7th Circle of Hell and keep living life Saint Johnny!
  23. Doing God’s work with that one.
  24. Lloyd’s has had some crazy stuff. I recall hearing about them even in the pre-internet days for some of the outrageous things they insured. That list right there that you posted has some real gems in it.
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