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2 hours ago, UnivTex34 said:

Redhead.

We learned this this summer, as we had our second kid, who has reddish hair, and had to have heart surgery, and the director for anesthesia at Dell Children’s was the Doc keeping him under said the same thing, and that it was very common for redheads to have a crazy high tolerance for knock out meds.  

I am a soulless ginger so that tracks.

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We went to my wife's follow up appointment, got the pathology reports. All clear, they got all of it out during surgery (not that there was much to take out). Also the lymph nodes were clear, nothing to see there. No chemo, no radiation. We will have a visit with the oncologist to discuss hormone therapy, but that will be after the reconstruction is done. 

I want to feel relieved but I can't just yet, this whole thing happened so fast. I think I might be on edge for a while. 

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On 12/4/2025 at 9:11 AM, UnivTex34 said:

Redhead.

We learned this this summer, as we had our second kid, who has reddish hair, and had to have heart surgery, and the director for anesthesia at Dell Children’s was the Doc keeping him under said the same thing, and that it was very common for redheads to have a crazy high tolerance for knock out meds.  

My wife is a redhead, and she goes under easily enough, but coming out of it is a long process.  

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2 minutes ago, dcbc said:

but coming out of it is a long process.  

Well, it obviously takes her a long time for her to emerge from the fog of being drugged.  We know this, because y'all are still married after all these years.

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1 hour ago, Sandman said:

We went to my wife's follow up appointment, got the pathology reports. All clear, they got all of it out during surgery (not that there was much to take out). Also the lymph nodes were clear, nothing to see there. No chemo, no radiation. We will have a visit with the oncologist to discuss hormone therapy, but that will be after the reconstruction is done. 

I want to feel relieved but I can't just yet, this whole thing happened so fast. I think I might be on edge for a while. 

When my wife went through breast cancer, I will never forget when the surgeon came out and told me the lymph nodes were clear.  I had been pretty rock steady throughout neoadjuvant chemotherapy and all that entails as a supportive spouse, but when I got that news, I felt like I needed to be mopped off the floor.  Because that really is the big question.

 

Just a bit of advice, as part of the reconstruction process, she'll have drains.  They tell you in the hospital to keep them clean, etc.  But in the US, at least 10 years ago, they tend to leave the drains in for a while (and you get sent home with them).  What they should tell you is you need to keep a sterile field around those things at all times.  Reconstruction was a lengthy process with multiple infections, but we eventually got it done. 

 

Working in your favor is that she didn't opt for immediate reconstruction, i.e., spacers immediately following the mastectomy, and she hadn't undergone chemo prior to surgery, which means her immune system is in much better shape than my wife's was.  But don't sleep on those drains.  You cannot have enough rubbing alcohol in residence based on our experience.  Stock up.  And all the best to you guys.

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14 minutes ago, Brisketexan said:

Well, it obviously takes her a long time for her to emerge from the fog of being drugged.  We know this, because y'all are still married after all these years.

And that's fair and probably not the first time someone has considered that possibility. 

 

But now all I can think of is sister in 16 Candles.

 

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16 minutes ago, dcbc said:

When my wife went through breast cancer, I will never forget when the surgeon came out and told me the lymph nodes were clear.  I had been pretty rock steady throughout neoadjuvant chemotherapy and all that entails as a supportive spouse, but when I got that news, I felt like I needed to be mopped off the floor.  Because that really is the big question.

 

Just a bit of advice, as part of the reconstruction process, she'll have drains.  They tell you in the hospital to keep them clean, etc.  But in the US, at least 10 years ago, they tend to leave the drains in for a while (and you get sent home with them).  What they should tell you is you need to keep a sterile field around those things at all times.  Reconstruction was a lengthy process with multiple infections, but we eventually got it done. 

 

Working in your favor is that she didn't opt for immediate reconstruction, i.e., spacers immediately following the mastectomy, and she hadn't undergone chemo prior to surgery, which means her immune system is in much better shape than my wife's was.  But don't sleep on those drains.  You cannot have enough rubbing alcohol in residence based on our experience.  Stock up.  And all the best to you guys.

Oh, the drains. Yeah, she had them after the mastectomy. Yes, I drained them every time she needed it, logged the amount of fluid I took out from each side, and I made sure to swab the fuck out of them with alcohol wipes. She hates the damn things. She got them out on Tuesday but the reconstruction is next Tuesday, so she'll only get a week's worth of relief. She said the drains have been the worst part of this whole thing, by far.

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