You are not being relegated down. You are being placed at the level you deserve.
Let me give you a real world example. Let's say there is a 20 year old college girl. She isn't fat, kinda cute...but no one would call her pretty. Because she drinks like crazy, is flirty and has no morals, she hooks up a lot. This continues through her 20s. Some of the guys that bang her are top tier guys (wealthy, connected, very handsome, high achievers). When she decides at 30 to find a husband, she realizes that none of the top tier guys will make a commitment to her. They banged her because she was available but there is nothing about her that merits a long term commitment. She will either marry a guy at her level (and wrongly think she is settling) or stay single and complain that there are no 'husband material' guys available. That young girl was me. I banged everyone west of The Drag and South of 28th street. I am living off of the money my grandmother left me, trying to get my homemade jewelry business off the ground. I spend my nights drinking wine and watching Netflix alone. I am the Iowa State of love.