I work with a young fella really going through it. I told him when he got off work today that he was welcome to meet me at Waimanalo Beach to fish. He went and bought a rod and made it there. I sat and listened to him for 3 hours or so. Listening is more helpful than lecturing. I told him I don’t look down on him because I have been in his shoes with alcohol. I guess this morning he also found out his girlfriend had an abortion I believe.
He dealt with the day by drinking and being a bottle of vodka to the beach. I did not judge him for drinking I just told him to put the bottle away. I didn’t ask him to pour it out because, and he said this before I did, that he’d just buy another bottle tonight. This is an exceptionally intelligent young guy. Alcohol, and to an extent Adderall and apparently cocaine, are issues. Mostly alcohol though. His parents no longer talk to him, but I did tell him to reach out to them because he is missing so much of his support system. Last thing I said is I am his friend and that anytime he needs to talk or vent about life or share details about it that he can. I do this with everyone I meet in life that is going through it. I hope for the best for him and that he can beat his demons. He has such a tormented soul and does not like himself.