that is really a perplexing situation. Nobody has ever mistaken me for Brad Pitt. I’ve only met Surly peeps Immamac and Bolverk IRL. They will sign affidavits that I’m not a head turner. I did not date a lot in high school but U of Florida being such a large school there was plenty of opportunity to be shut down that was more acceptable in such a large pond. And there were enough women there a few of them with bad judgment were totally OK dating me.
After I graduated and started earning some coin, the 80s were fantastic. I remember one week I slept with a 16-year-old and a 39-year-old (I knew of Xavier college - but there was also a Xavier prep school. I met the 16 yo her on the riverboat President where X had a concert. The young lady was apparently a Billy zoom fan.)
The 39-year-old was a recently divorced insurance adjuster, and she picked my 26-year-old self up at a bar during Mardi Gras. That was my first experience with semi-encapsulated breast implants, but I powered through it
The simple point is, if you keep swinging your bat, you will eventually get a hit. All of these guys quit stepping up to the plate. Thinking back, I blame me marrying the ex-wife on the fact that she spent the night - and when I woke up the next morning - I found her earring under my pillow and handed it back to her. Oops. Turns out it was not her earring. I then told her “I tried to get a Mormon girl up to my bed and she was shaking her head vigorously so it must’ve fallen off. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. “ I believe it was that moment that my ex-wife decided she would go after me full-time because then it became her versus the competition.
tldr: even an ugly Mook like me can get laid if you just put some minor effort into it, shower and cut your toenails occasionally, try not to look like a Pacific Northwest grunge band member from the 90s when you dress, and have something to talk about with your date. And by that I mean, let your date do most of the talking, and you nod and pretend to look fascinated (until you become fascinated). That’s about all you need.