Update:
Bought the $14 Target "extra firm" pillow: fucking joke. It went flat as a pancake as soon as I put my head on it. I tossed it in my kid's room, she doesn't really live here anymore so she'll never notice.
Went to Costco and they had a memory foam/cooling/charcoal pillow for $29, I said why not. It was ok, nothing great.
On the way home from Costco, we stopped at a mattress store that had advertised that they were closing the store and everything was 50% off. I found a pillow that seemed to meet my needs, so I asked the guy how much. It turned out that the pillows weren't part of the sale and the Tempur Pedic wonder pillow was a cool $269. We immediately left and I went home and looked for it ebay. I found the exact model on there (I think it was stolen but YOLO), still sealed in the package. I offered $90 and the seller accepted. It's pretty damn great, I gotta say. Here's a link for those that are interested.
https://www.tempurpedic.com/shop-pillows/tempur-breeze-pro-cooling-pillow/v/3183/