Derka, my question is a simple one:
Why do you fucking care what other people think? I get that young people care more what other people think than older people. Now that I’m a senior citizen, I have a healthy dose if I don’t give a fuck when I run across people who want to judge me.
That is why you’ll see senior citizens wearing stripes and plaids at the same time. Not cool you say? They don’t give a shit about what you think is cool - they think these two items are clean and I’m gonna wear them. Fuck you.
I am not saying that a certain amount of self-awareness is not valuable or necessary. The old expression when you meet an asshole in the morning that’s an asshole, when you meet assholes throughout your day you are the asshole comes to mind. We should all at least remain open to how people view us - because we all want to better ourselves and not treat others poorly.
But ultimately, who cares what other people think in general? I’m obviously a person with voting interests that are more liberal Democrat. I have huge amounts of friends and former family who are deep Maga people. If one of them told me I was wrong I would not care. After all, it’s taken decades and decades for me to develop my core of beliefs.
I am a fanatic gator sports fan. If I lived in Georgia, I would not give two shits if all of my neighbors were bulldogs and hated my gator flag. The defense is simply to ignore people. Think about it - a huge amount of your butt hurt is that there is a disagreement about whether you or they are the cause of your meltdowns Why in the world is someone’s incorrect opinion that you are the cause of this so important to you? Had you blown it all off you’d still be posting without this drama.
The bottom line is you seem to be incapable of stepping back and not going full Durka when you get angry. Ultimately, it is up to you to always give a response that is proportional to the problem. Telling the site owner to go fuck himself is not really a great strategy. And the only reason you did that is because you simply cannot control yourself when you get angry. When you get angry is when you display all of the things that get you in trouble and that people hate about your presence here.
And I get that you cannot stop doing what you do. So it seems that it would be in your best interests simply to avoid the place. If you won’t avoid the place, then you need a thicker skin. My post acknowledges the fact that people pick on you and go after you. You intentionally selected the one board in the country were snarky insults and shenanigans (within reason) are not only our condoned, but make up part of Surly culture. That is not gonna change. Assholes are still going to egg you on to get you spun up. Your response to all that is to get upset.
I wish you nothing but the best, but if you won’t put all your enemies on ignore and can’t refrain from responding when you see other people quote theirs posts about you, then this will happen until infinity…or you get banned.
I hope everything works out for the best for you, but I’m not sure if you can correct the problem here - no matter how many times you post about your problems. Only you can decide not to care about others peoples opinions, and you are incapable of not caring about other peoples opinions deeply.
If you are going to hang around, try to be more like South Austin.