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Like the national forests? Go while they're still there.
Brisketexan replied to Captainant's topic in Daily Texan
This. There is no such thing as a statewide office any longer. Just offices in service to Trump and Fox News. You could be the Senior Senator from Texas, and vote to nuke Texas at he behest of Trump on the basis that it would "own the libs," and you'd win the vote of the surviving Texans by a 10 point margin. -
Like the national forests? Go while they're still there.
Brisketexan replied to Captainant's topic in Daily Texan
Short answer: you don't. The reality is that it is always the case that incredible things that take decades, even centuries to build, can be destroyed in minutes. Building takes effort. Destroying just takes one well-placed explosive charge. We are going to lose public lands that took better than a century to accumulate. Getting them back/replaced will take another century. The damage being done by this Regime will not be repaired even by our great grandchildren's lifetime. -
Tale as old as time, man.
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To give you a feel for Meloni, When even SHE is rolling her eyes at what a pseudo-fascist clownshow you are.....yeah, that's embarrassing.
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Like the national forests? Go while they're still there.
Brisketexan replied to Captainant's topic in Daily Texan
Well, yeah. It's hard to forward calls to Cancun, what with all the international charges and whatnot. Oh, and the story here ain't just the selling of the land. It's the buying, and who the buyers will be. They'll get them for ass-cheap prices, and every buyer will be someone who previously outright purchased favor/status with the Regime. It's the autocracy/oligarchy playbook. All assets of the people will be transferred to the allies of the Regime. -
It's not all women - it's age 18-29. And while that number still seems high, it doesn't seem that off-base either.
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You'd have been a giant among wee, ill-tempered men.
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Especially if you're an outlier. My son is tall, but in the US, there are plenty of other tall guys. In Scotland? His friends use him as a point of reference in bars, because he's generally 4 inches or more taller than everyone else. And he says yes, that fact alone has girls there going up and approaching him. At which point he sighs, and says "it's a shame most of the girls in Scotland are short, round, and orange [WAY too much face makeup is a thing]." But as someone of just a bit above average height, and decent but nothing special in the looks department, it's amazing how far "confident and funny and ambitious" will take you. But I guess advice of "don't be a loser" is a bit too much of a tautology for a lotta guys.
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Sounds like you should be taller.
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Covid/Influenza/Black Death. 2024 and beyond
Brisketexan replied to Parliament's topic in Daily Texan
Yeah. Kinda like how MIA is getting chemo which is utterly brutal on his body.....to save his life. Sometimes, you have two bad choices. You do your best to pick the least bad one. That doesn't mean that the choice you made is "good" -- there are no good options. Keep gyms -- which are definitely an easy place to transmit a deadly, novel virus -- open, so people can work out and help their physical health, but at heightened risk for a deadly illness? Or close gyms to avoid an obvious transmission hotbed -- which will necessarily mean some people end up more sedentary and less healthy overall for the time being? Those are the choices. Maybe we got it right, maybe we got it wrong. Collectively, we made the best decisions we could at the time, dealing with an entirely novel situation. -
Bingo. This dovetails a bit into the crisis of "individualism" vs. community (as either-or, oppositional forces). We need groups and community to fully succeed. So, get out there and be in and of them. NOT online communities (I mean, look at THIS shithole), but real-world community. It makes you more connectional, which helps you....connect.
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I'm a good tipper, but my wife will even give me the side-eye if I only tip 25%. She's pretty fucking free with my money. I also gave the boy the speech about "not today, I know you're a poor student with no money, but once you start working, and you go to a bar to actually sit at the bar with a date, friends, whatever....tip nicely right at the start of the night. Talk to the bartender, tell him/her 'I appreciate you taking good care of me tonight,' and slip them a 20 at the beginning of the night." Doesn't have to be visible to anyone else, it's about having a rapport with the bartender, and being treated well and engaging with them. The visibility is "huh, the bartender seems to think this guy is a great dude, I guess I should too." If you go someplace frequently, and can do it with a regular bartender, even better. At present, he's still bitching about spending 3 pounds on a pint of shitty Tennents, but he'll get there.
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Both of these. Blame the GQP for the violence they foment. Non-stop. They are a party of violent murderers. Call them that. Wait, what's that you say? That's as unfair as demonizing all 65 million hispanics in the US as criminals (this admin has done just that)? ABSOLUTELY. THAT'S THE FUCKING POINT. RUN THE PLAY AGAINST THEM.
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"this one time, at band camp...."
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The boy had experiences with each of the two archetypes at university. One was one of his suitemates (they put 6 random people together in a shared suite, half male and half female). One of the guys, Nial, ended up being an Andrew Tate disciple. When they'd all go out, he'd hit on women way too aggressively and with little smoothness, and then get pissed that they wouldn't fall for his obvious charms (instead of thinking "huh...something I'm doing isn't working, maybe I should adjust my approach"). In short, the problem was everyone else, never him. Finally, he started being abusive and demeaning to two of the women in the flat. My son stepped in, that really pissed him off, and he went off on him. He moved out, they don't speak any more, but when they see him around, he still isn't ever with a date, and still seems to be an angry dude. The other was a roommate he interviewed and then let move into his next flat. He was an intern with Barclays, doing technical work for them (the UK has a sort of hybrid higher ed-intern thing people can do, instead of university). The job was 95% remote. So, he just stayed in his room. All the fucking time. Terrible hygiene, the room smelled. He'd leave food out in the kitchen, have food rot in the fridge, never take out the trash. The boy tried to include him in some group activities, including girls. Fella was just so painfully awkward. He even admitted at one point, when my son laid down some rules on how to live like a civilized human, "yeah, I guess my dad should have taught me some of this stuff." Eventually, he flamed out and moved back home. Those are the two closest examples, but I'm sure the boy could share a shitload more. He hangs out with a lot more 20 year old dudes than I do.
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This is definitely a key to relationship success, and something my wife and I realized we liked about each other early on. Even in college, we could go to a party, and end up going our separate ways, talking to different groups of people etc., then come back together at the end. Neither of us got hurt feelings because our date wasn't glued to our hip all night. She's always wanted me to indulge in going hunting, fishing, tailgating, etc. with my friends -- "go, have fun." Shit, sometimes, it's been "you need to call Pescado Rojo and put together a fishing trip." And likewise, she does girl's weekends, goes out to regular dinners with girlfriends, etc. It's healthy for both of us. All of that comes from mutual confidence, I think. Hell, maybe part of the bigger social issue is a crisis of confidence. Trying to build yourself up on social media is an exercise in faking it. Being confident and successful in the real world is much more intimidating, but the thing is....it's just not that hard.
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Within the past 5 years. The boy and I and one of our buddies had a great fucking afternoon hunting on a friend's place near Thrall. All three of us, hopping fences and chasing down squirrels in the pecan trees. It was a fucking blast, we were all laughing our asses off. And yeah, it doesn't have to be hunting and fishing, but it helps. Both of my kids appreciate growing up with that broad perspective of activities. It makes them cooler, gives them the ability to interact with a diverse group of people, etc. It's a life skill, being able to bullshit with a bunch of blue collar dudes telling lies around the campfire, or being able to talk fishing with a diverse group of people on the boat, etc. There are other things that match up with this, doesn't have to be those -- work on a car in the driveway, build computers, play a sport, all kinds of shit that's real-world. It's a trope to say that social media is poison, but it's a trope for a reason.
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Which raises the real question here: what are we going to do with our mediocre men? Because, by definition, "mediocre or below" is at least half of all men. Now, I see plenty of loser dipshits do just great with women....because there are plenty of loser dipshit women out there, too. Really, the issue seems to be in that middle third of men and women. As mid-range men fall behind and have less success, mid-range women don't see great partner prospects out there for them (see the dating app stat -- the top 20% of guys have their pick of the top 50% of women, and are pursuing them. Those numbers don't match up well).
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Fuck yeah, I feel seen.
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Really good post. To some of the other posts: Yes, young women have their own issues, challenges, and shortcomings too. Yes, the problem isn't with masculinity, but there are problems with lazy masculinity, toxic masculinity, and just plain lost masculinity. I know that my wife's antenna went up when our son was just 6, as she observed that the American "school model" was not a great fit for boys. And by "boys," we mean the typical behavior set: rough and tumble, attuned to movement (not sitting still in a chair all day), being interested in kinetic and kinesthetic activities and stories, etc. Because many of the things that are inherent to masculine traits can manifest in negative ways (e.g., violence), in many ways we have set up systems to quash and/or ignore those traits. When you have something that is your nature, but no safe or socially acceptable outlet for it, that's a recipe for problems down the road. Layer onto that the changing economic landscape -- now that we have decades of women having something closer to equal opportunity, including equal access to higher education, men are falling behind. See the gender imbalance in college enrollment. Shit, I've seen it firsthand: if we're looking for top notch candidates to hire, the bulk of the good resumes we get are from women. That's just the way it is these days. So, that tier of men below the very top -- the "mid-range" guys -- are finding things much more challenging, and success is harder to find. Many men are missing something, and they feel it, even if they don't know exactly what it is. And there are folks out there like Andrew Tate capitalizing on that yearning. I don't know this stuff firsthand, I don't listen to his shit. But I've watched my son and his broad peer group, and see the "successful" models and the ones that are doing poorly. The Andrew Tate crowd, the "completely absorbed by playing video games online to the exclusion of real socialization" crowd, are not doing well. They are either wallowing about in loserdom, or are angry and bitter. On the other side, the guys who are putting themselves out in the world, have some activity that is connectional, has them interacting with real live human beings. I look at some of my son's best friends from high school, all of whom have gone in different directions at school, and are doing pretty well. My son is tall, good looking, and really learned to socialize and be out in the world during his gap year in Berlin. He's comfortable in a variety of social situations. He plays college baseball (it's not American college, it's more like a club sport over there), so has friends from a variety of teams, travels to tourneys, etc. He's confident, he's decent and kind, and smart enough. He treats women well, and does well with them. He has several female friends who are real-deal friends. Another buddy is a college athlete, and has a hobby of buying and refurbishing go-karts for re-sale (he's an engineering student, loves working with his hands). Cool bit -- that's a hobby he got into working with my son on a project go-kart we bought years ago. Again, he's a good and kind guy, confident and outgoing, and he does great socially. Another buddy is a freakish super-genius. At the U of Toronto, doing PhD level work in the lab as a junior. He is networking with other geniuses, getting his name out there. Again, he's a good dude. He's odd.....but in his world of odd dudes and chicks, he's at home, and puts himself out there. There are plenty of models of male success, they're not hard to execute on, but I suspect that many men don't have access to them. Or, they are led astray. One interesting thing about the three guys I just listed above: none of them have a big presence on social media. Sure, they have an Instagram and Snapchat, they connect with people online, they all online game some....but their primary life and social focus is NOT via social media. Hell, I remember my social "turning point" in that 14-15 yr old timeframe. I was definitely a nerd type, happy to be absorbed in books, and with my tight little group of other nerd friends. But...I was also really interested in girls, and wanted to figure out how to expand my social world. So, I observed. I hung out with a broad group of folks at school, and watched how they interacted. I also started paying some attention to how I dressed (it was the 80s....so some of my efforts in that respect were....unfortunate at first). As I grasped a model on how to be more social, I started venturing out and doing more things. Which took some courage and confidence of the "fake it till you make it" variety. But putting myself out there, while it included some awkward missteps (again...I was 14-15), showed me how easy it was to succeed. I wasn't bad looking. I was outdoorsy and active. I was smart and funny (chicks dig funny). And, I was a decent person -- I had a moral compass, my parents raised me to be considerate and kind, all-in-all. I looked up one day, and I realized that it was actually easy to meet girls and date them. My son had a similar transition (although his was different in that his handicap was a personal illness and then COVID - he was always better looking and more charismatic than I was). He was a bit of an introvert, and realized he needed to get past that. So he moved to Berlin, and told himself that when he got there, he was going to say "yes" to every social opportunity, even if he'd rather retreat to his room and play Minecraft. So he did. And he learned a lot. And he grew, and built skills and confidence. You gotta be willing to put yourself out there and fail/stumble some. There are also some challenges in how we've redefined male and female interactions. Female agency and consent are emphasized now -- which is a good thing. But the messaging on that can be terrifying to a young man figuring out how to navigate relationships. Telling men over and over that they are all rapists or potential rapists is not helpful. Making young men even MORE scared to make the first move because they are worried about being accused of something is a real handicap. I remember my son actually voicing that fear to us, and we had to talk him through it. The flip side of that is that, if a girl is interested, she is much more likely to make the move than she might have been in decades past. But how do you approach women, with the sexual hunger and aggression that most of us recall and recognize, and do so in the "me too" era without going astray? It's not easy. Finally, how much of this is failed parenting, lack of mentoring? I don't know. I suspect it's no small part of it. It's something we paid attention to at home, starting because of those concerns my smart wife spotted when the boy was in first grade.
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Oh, it's not a purely misogynistic issue, I agree. There are LOTS of factors involved -- the changing social landscape has not been kind to anyone. It rarely is. Adjusting to new realities involves some discord. Young women (again, speaking in generalities here) have their own shit to deal with. yeah, but all those boomers are fucking. Cialis sales are rockin'.
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