Derka cares. I'll make a comment on the arc of this thread (and many others), and then hopefully move on. (Who am I kidding?):
This is surlyhorns, a board full of assholes. I mean, I cannot count the number of times I've seen extremely disparaging references to myself by posters who I barely recognize, and way more often than not I just laugh and think "OK". Taking these arguments personally is a really, really bad idea. People don't like my politics, they don't like my music opinions, they don't like my limited experience playing sports (for fuck's sake all I ever did was wrestle and bowl). That's fine, make your bed and lie in it. The vast majority of posters just really don't give a shit and CERTAINLY don't keep "receipts" about random arguments.
Are the mental health potshots OK? Not in a million years. The rest of it? Just surly back and forth. I cannot possibly remember who insulted me yesterday much less years ago, but here we are. C'est la vie?