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Hi! I’ve been through hell and back with Fort Bend ISD Special Education.

Once you request testing, they have 90 school days to complete it and then 60 to implement findings. It took us from basically early November of my sons first grade year until Spring Break to get him out of a general education class room. During that time, he was illegally suspended three times. I should have sued then.

We were put into the Behavioral Support Services class at a different school. That went w pretty good through 2nd grade. I will say that we had an AMAZING teacher. The rest of the admin and teacher in that school - not so much. The kids in this program don’t fit typical special education. Their outbursts are often violent, so they get labeled as bad kids. They get forgotten for things like bench mark testing. This teacher fought for these things.

Beginning third grade, Fort Bend found it brilliant to move us away from the ONE teacher my son bonded with and moved us to a school that would feed into his middle / high school. The principal told another parent she didn’t want this program on campus. They didn’t set it up correctly. They had a new guy that had never run a BSS class running it.

My son did 10 worksheets from August until Thanksgiving. He was assaulted by the teacher. He was bullied and insulted by the teacher. The teacher took away bathroom privileges. I could continue….
We hired an advocate at this point. I highly recommend you use an advocate any time you meet with the school. The asshole was removed and our second grade teacher was moved over.

The district had a meeting with us and formally apologized. We were given 40 hours of compensatitory services. One of my sons friends is around 400 hours of compensatitory services.

My son is now home. He’s killing it doing online public education through Connection Academy. He will not set foot on a Fort Bend Campus again. I’m looking at GED at 16 or whatever to junior college or tech. School was ruined for him because he didn’t fit.

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FortBend ISD special education is trash. Get an advocate for any ARD meetings, as they know all the rules and everything the district is supposed to do for you.

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I get the hesitancy to go with meds. When our oldest son was 6 he was diagnosed with adhd. We didn't want to "rely" on meds, so we did everything we could to avoid that. Counseling, therapy, etc. Our school was great and his teacher worked with us really well. One of the things she did was start giving him a paper happy face at the start of the day, so he had a positive start. When he acted out he'd get a check mark, then a 2nd one, and then he'd lose the happy face. The goal obviously was to bring home his happy face with as few check marks as possible. Most days he didn't have one to bring home, and every once in a while he would, but with check marks. I don't think he every brought a clean one home. About a month after we started this he came home in tears. He said he was trying so hard to keep his happy face, and he just couldn't do it. It broke our hearts. We talk to his pediatrician and started a very low dose of medicine. We had to adjust some, but eventually found the right combination that took enough of the edge off, that he could keep his faces most days.

TL:DR school, doctor, and everyone worked to figure it out, but it took a while. Meds can help, if used smartly. 

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12 hours ago, Goofyboy said:

Hi! I’ve been through hell and back with Fort Bend ISD Special Education.

Once you request testing, they have 90 school days to complete it and then 60 to implement findings. It took us from basically early November of my sons first grade year until Spring Break to get him out of a general education class room. During that time, he was illegally suspended three times. I should have sued then.

We were put into the Behavioral Support Services class at a different school. That went w pretty good through 2nd grade. I will say that we had an AMAZING teacher. The rest of the admin and teacher in that school - not so much. The kids in this program don’t fit typical special education. Their outbursts are often violent, so they get labeled as bad kids. They get forgotten for things like bench mark testing. This teacher fought for these things.

Beginning third grade, Fort Bend found it brilliant to move us away from the ONE teacher my son bonded with and moved us to a school that would feed into his middle / high school. The principal told another parent she didn’t want this program on campus. They didn’t set it up correctly. They had a new guy that had never run a BSS class running it.

My son did 10 worksheets from August until Thanksgiving. He was assaulted by the teacher. He was bullied and insulted by the teacher. The teacher took away bathroom privileges. I could continue….
We hired an advocate at this point. I highly recommend you use an advocate any time you meet with the school. The asshole was removed and our second grade teacher was moved over.

The district had a meeting with us and formally apologized. We were given 40 hours of compensatitory services. One of my sons friends is around 400 hours of compensatitory services.

My son is now home. He’s killing it doing online public education through Connection Academy. He will not set foot on a Fort Bend Campus again. I’m looking at GED at 16 or whatever to junior college or tech. School was ruined for him because he didn’t fit.

TLDR:
FortBend ISD special education is trash. Get an advocate for any ARD meetings, as they know all the rules and everything the district is supposed to do for you.

Damn, sorry to see this experience, Goofyboy.  Props to you for jumping in and doing what was needed for your son.

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Damn, sorry to see this experience, Goofyboy.  Props to you for jumping in and doing what was needed for your son.

I consider myself one of the lucky ones. We have the means and ability to hire an advocate ($100 an hour). I am able to work from anywhere in the world, so I’ve just stayed home. I have no clue if I’ve ever been formally allowed to be a remote employee. My wife has a great job, so if I ever was fired, we’d be ok.

There are so many parents that don’t have the same resources we do and their kids are suffering. I left out the bullshit by the Gen Ed teachers at his school.

I’m one of the first to say not all kids need to be in a normal Gen Ed setting. Mine was terrible and it did him and the other kids no good being in there. I still believe in the class he was placed in, but it needs WAY more and better resources. The administration needs to support these types of classes.

Also, if anyone needs basic advice or info on anything related to IEP, ARD’s, or referrals of advocates / attorneys - let me know.
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Just saw this thread. I’m glad you guys  are making progress. I’m far from an expert in this but one thing you might consider if you haven’t already is genetic testing for MTHFR SNPs. They are basically point mutations that inhibit methylation of folate. Methylfolate is very important for neurotransmitter synthesis, and there are several known mutations to the enzyme that adds the methyl group to the folate molecule, allowing it to cross the blood brain barrier.
 

There are several unique mutations, so a child can inherit a different mutation from each parent. Previously, supplementation with methylfolate was considered alternative medicine, but it is becoming more mainstream and is now routinely prescribed for depression that does not respond to traditional antidepressants. My understanding of the basic science leads me to believe it would be effective for adhd and generalized anxiety disorder. Definitely worth looking into IMO. 

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Some really great advice and suggestions here so I’m not sure this is needed but I wanted to share our success story.

Son diagnosed with severe ADHD in kindergarten. We were at a private school where all the kids in his class were a year older and at that age, developmentally the difference was enormous (we never even thought about holding him back for that advantage). The Dr. said he would not be able to function without drugs. Wife did a ton of research and we decided to try to find food sensitivities/triggers. We cut everything for a week except raw fruits and vegetables and slowly added foods back 1 at a time. We found anything artificial was a huge trigger, particularly artificial colors and preservatives. Gluten as well. We found we could tell within minutes when he ate something he was not supposed to eat. He would wet himself, get very emotional, act wildly. At the same time there happened to be an acupuncturist from Costa Rica staying with my sister so we signed him up for 10 treatments. I didn’t believe any of that stuff but I figured why not. After just a few treatments, along with the very strict diet the change was striking. We moved schools and kept this up through 5th grade. Very strict diet, virtually no cheating, healthy clean eating. He’s excelled, never been on drugs and he’s going to be a senior next year and he’s absolutely crushing it in school. We moved out onto a lake 7 years ago and didn’t keep it up but he’s found ways to cope as he’s gotten older. One additional upside is because he ate so clean for all those early years, he is in great physical shape from not eating all the crap kids eat. He doesn’t have the physique of any kid I’ve seen.

TLDR: diet can have a big role in behavior, it’s extremely difficult to maintain (no cheating) but we found it, along with acupuncture, he’s been able to achieve things I nor the medical community thought was possible.

Good luck! I know how difficult and emotional this all can be.

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On 5/10/2022 at 10:11 PM, Sawbonz said:

Just saw this thread. I’m glad you guys  are making progress. I’m far from an expert in this but one thing you might consider if you haven’t already is genetic testing for MTHFR SNPs. They are basically point mutations that inhibit methylation of folate. Methylfolate is very important for neurotransmitter synthesis, and there are several known mutations to the enzyme that adds the methyl group to the folate molecule, allowing it to cross the blood brain barrier.
 

There are several unique mutations, so a child can inherit a different mutation from each parent. Previously, supplementation with methylfolate was considered alternative medicine, but it is becoming more mainstream and is now routinely prescribed for depression that does not respond to traditional antidepressants. My understanding of the basic science leads me to believe it would be effective for adhd and generalized anxiety disorder. Definitely worth looking into IMO. 

My wife just mentioned this the other day in regards to our older child with ADHD, depression, and anxiety. We just switched the meds she was on for the past year as they were not making her issues with depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideations any better. Wife read about the methylfolate deficiency in an ADHD magazine and suggested we get some genetic testing done to see if that's an issue.

Our older one has always had issues with sensory sensitivity. Couldn't sleep easily as a baby, always needed special routines to get them to sleep, had severe meltdowns that you'd have to endure until she wore herself out. It got better after we started Vyvanse in 3rd grade for ADHD symptoms. Since puberty + pandemic, we've seen a recurrence of these toddler like behaviors. Very inflexible, always nervous or on edge, picky eater with sensitivity to certain types of foods, compulsive about finding something or needing it immediately. It led me to get her tested for autism last summer which came back as negative. We just started with a new therapist who picked up on the sensory issues immediately which we're thankful for. Most therapists seemed to downplay the issues we talked about or didn't have much in the way of help.  She immediately brought up maybe needing to get occupational therapy for our kid. She starts high school next fall and we'd really like to get her more squared away because it's a magnet school that will be very demanding. We think she's up for the challenge as she's a tremendous student. It's just the other 20% of her that we're trying to get help with. 

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We started the 5mg Focalin last Saturday. We waited a little while after we received the scrip because my wife and I were both out of town at different times and we wanted to be together so we could both watch him closely. I told our son that we were giving him medicine for his brain. He already knows and is very open about the fact that he's got something going on with his brain. He's very casual about it and it's not weird at all, which I'm grateful for.  I'd like to think it's because my wife and I have been very careful to be casual about it and not act weird or ashamed or distraught or anything when we talk to him about it.  Anyway, we went to a restaurant with extended family for lunch and we saw some immediate and strong effects of the medication.  He got one of those kid's menus that has activities and shit you can color and whatnot. He focused INTENTLY on that the entire time. It was almost like a dog with a new bone. He didn't want to let it go. I had to take him and his little brother to the bathroom to change their clothes and he took that paper and the crayons into the bathroom and continued working on it up on the counter. So, at least initially, his ability to focus on a task has been tremendously affected by the medication. A downside is that he seems to be more aggro, which is not good. If we ask him to do something like brush his teeth or something that he doesn't want to do, he gets angry and screams instantly. That was kind of normal before, but it seems more severe and constant right now. We're just keeping a close eye on it, getting feedback from his teachers at school, who know what's going on, and then we'll decide if we need to talk to the pediatrician about maybe changing the dosage or medication. Too early to tell right now.

He's also started occupational therapy.  I'm about to run out to take him to his appointment now. It's only his second appointment so too early to see any effects. The OT and meds are all we're doing right now. We had the option of a group therapy session, but we decided maybe that was too much and we're just sticking with the other things right now. The group seemed to really help him last fall, so maybe if he struggles during the school year again we try to start that up again.

We still don't have an answer for school next year. Most likely he's going to go to the public school in our neighborhood. We have no idea if it's going to work or be good for him long or short term. It's just a crapshoot and there's no amount of data or information that is going to make that decision any clearer. We're just going to have to try something and see how it goes then constantly reassess and respond accordingly.

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On 5/10/2022 at 10:11 PM, Sawbonz said:

Just saw this thread. I’m glad you guys  are making progress. I’m far from an expert in this but one thing you might consider if you haven’t already is genetic testing for MTHFR SNPs. They are basically point mutations that inhibit methylation of folate. Methylfolate is very important for neurotransmitter synthesis, and there are several known mutations to the enzyme that adds the methyl group to the folate molecule, allowing it to cross the blood brain barrier.
 

There are several unique mutations, so a child can inherit a different mutation from each parent. Previously, supplementation with methylfolate was considered alternative medicine, but it is becoming more mainstream and is now routinely prescribed for depression that does not respond to traditional antidepressants. My understanding of the basic science leads me to believe it would be effective for adhd and generalized anxiety disorder. Definitely worth looking into IMO. 

This is our story. We were always given a diagnosis of it might be this, he’s a little bit this. Never anything concrete. For that reason, we were completely against medicating our child. My son’s behavior was nearly identical to the OP. Public school always seemed like a bad idea, our child wasn’t special needs but that’s where he would’ve been placed. Luckily we found a Montessori school that understood what we were dealing with and an amazing teacher who refused to give up on him. 
 

One day we shared our story with a friend who had MTHFR and a light went off for everyone. It wasn’t an overnight fix. Therapy proved to be a waste of time. It’s been a long road, your kid getting in trouble at school is frustrating. Hitting other kids for no reason is very tough as well. But if you saw the kid today, you’d never suspect we went through anything like we did.

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I didn’t know where else to post this.  This boy was in my son’s class at school.  Such a tragic and sad story.  
When I dropped off Alex this morning, the teachers just looked lost and tired.


Father identifies teen who was struck, killed on Spring Cypress Road early Monday morning

 

https://www.khou.com/article/news/local/teen-killed-crash-houston/285-eb7cb956-ac81-4442-9a0d-d342cf8add0e?fbclid=IwAR1lcuPUFky-xMB0RfiIy9p59R5aq3J__eL3mZrH37fEHtEB7d9MqSUqoHQ

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23 hours ago, Mullet Free said:

First of all, I'd like to say I'm sorry that you're having to go through this journey. Even the people that get good results for their kids will tell you it fucking sucks. Not that it's hopeless or anything, but that it is SO hard and stressful. If you have the means, it really makes you appreciate it because the costs and hoops you go through add up. If you don't have the means to do everything, then it would make it even worse. We were also shocked by the number of kids that need help.

 

Our son was first flagged by us around 3 years old. The usual stuff. Meltdowns, speech delay, difficulty with transitions. We got him assessed and put in ABA therapy pretty quickly. Speech therapy, occupational therapy. We did diet changes like you've probably already tried, vitamin regimens. I feel like they all probably helped in their own way, but it's kind of hard to pinpoint what worked best. We really threw the kitchen sink at his issues. Fortunately, he progressed enough to go to kinder on his own and he's been in school since then. He did get put on a small dose of focalin in the first grade, but he's stayed on the same dose since then. He still has problems with emotional control. He cried at school much later than a typical kid would/should and that led to some bullying problems over time, but he's in 8th grade now and doing well. He's the school mascot and excellent student. I do wish for his sake that connecting with peers was easier, although most times he doesn't really seem to care. One thing that the first doc told us that has rang true is that his emotional maturity lags his age. She said at the time it would be 2/3-3/4 of his age. Has seemed about right. Anyway, I'm venting.

 

I owe all his gains to my wife. She did a ton of the legwork since I have a demanding job. You're going to need a strong partner. This stuff will strain you both to the max.

 

You haven't posted on this thread in a while, so I'm hoping things are going well.

How is Focalin?  We’ve been thinking about trying it with my son Alex.

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How is Focalin?  We’ve been thinking about trying it with my son Alex.

We've had good luck with it. He's been on it for years, with minimal issues. He eats less at lunch than most kids due to it, but we play catch up at home with dinner. From what I've heard from other parents, ADD med tolerance is really just so specific to each kid. A lot of med tinkering happens with a lot of these kids. The only other med we personally tried briefly was the patches, but he had bad skin reactions to them.

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Saw this thread got bumped, so I'll post an update.

Since we took our son out of the private school last spring things have been better overall for us and him.  I think he was so stressed out every day in that environment and he relaxed immediately after he was taken out of it.  That allowed my wife and me to breathe a little bit too.  We had the focalin scrip and we filled it, gave it to him for a couple of weeks, but it did not make his main issues any better at all.  We got through the summer just fine.  He was at camps and whatnot, so he wasn't in difficult environments for him.  We still had to make a school decision.  We opted for the public school in our neighborhood.  It's a Montessori school and we thought the completely different curriculum that allows more choices and freedom of movement, etc. would be better for him.  Plus, we figured the public school had more resources for this kind of thing and the teachers were probably used to and willing to put up with a lot more shit than the private school teachers.

The fall semester went really well.  A few issues here and there, but overall he was doing great.  We were in pretty constant contact with the teacher and her aide (who we knew from a previous school, which was a great bonus).  During the spring, though, he started to regress to the same behaviors we saw last spring.  My wife and I both got the feeling of "here we go again."  Some of our son's behaviors were pretty severe - hitting other kids, knocking over furniture, running out of the classroom.  The teachers took it way more in stride than the private school teachers, but still, things reach a point where they have to escalate.  We are kind of at that point now.  We decided to give the focalin another try.  We dosed him last Sunday to see how it affected him.  Not good.  It was his little brother's birthday party day and my parents were in town, so there was a lot of stimulation. He was talking really fast and had a hard time getting all of his thoughts out.  During the party, he isolated himself and just sat in a corner until we finally coaxed him to move to a better place for him to chill out.  He kept saying weird shit, like how he had all of these problems and no one could fix them.  It was kind of heartbreaking to witness.  My wife and I decided that the focalin was a total disaster and that we weren't going to give it to him again.  This caused us to think that maybe he was misdiagnosed altogether. His diagnosis was ADHD.  I can't say I have the scientific definition memorized, but our son does not have problems keeping his attention on something.  Quite the opposite actually.  He is not hyperactive.  Again, quite the contrary - he loves nothing more than to chill on the couch at home with his iPad.  My theory is that he actually has OCD and possibly depression (just like me and probably several others in my family). We had a consult with the pediatrician and his psychologist.  They agreed that we should discontinue the focalin.  On Monday, he was still kind of experiencing the effects of the focalin and I could tell he was off, but we sent him to school anyway.  He lasted fifteen minutes before the teacher texted my wife telling her that he was having a bad day and raging out.  We probably could have left him there, but I went and picked him up and stayed with him at home until my wife could relieve me.

We were feeling a bit overwhelmed at that point.  Luckily, while my wife was at work (she works at a swanky health club) one of her clients noticed something was wrong and my wife told her what was up.  The client, who is a wealthy and connected older lady, stopped their session right then and there and put in a call to a friend who is a child psychiatrist.  We had an appointment with another one, but the earliest we could get in was late April, which might've been too late for us.  This new doc called back almost immediately and Voila! we got an appointment for next week.  That's how the RPN (Rich People Network) works!  Anyway, we're pretty excited about this new doc.  My wife talked to him already and he understood the situation immediately.  He also thinks maybe he was misdiagnosed and that focalin wasn't the right drug for him.  So, right now we're just waiting for the psychiatrist appointment and we'll see what happens from there.

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Was the ADHD diagnosis, Combined Type? The oldest has that. She's not hyperactive with formerly the exception of socially like talking too much in class. That changed with high school. She's hyperfocused if anything, bordering on what could be considered OCD. But it's not OCD like touching a light a certain number of times. She can actually do tons of things really well if she's interested in them. That's why a phone is a disaster for her because while it can keep her attention, she doesn't want to give it up which can cause issues. The middle of this fits her to a tee. Issues with depression, anxiety, mood disregulation. Retreats inward when things get tough. Has to take Trazodone to sleep. We were using Vyvanse for a while until we switched insurance and a bottle would cost $300. We're using Jornay PM now which is decent. She also has sensory sensitivity issues but that's been the case since she was little.

 

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49 minutes ago, Ojo Rojo said:

Saw this thread got bumped, so I'll post an update.

Since we took our son out of the private school last spring things have been better overall for us and him.  I think he was so stressed out every day in that environment and he relaxed immediately after he was taken out of it.  That allowed my wife and me to breathe a little bit too.  We had the focalin scrip and we filled it, gave it to him for a couple of weeks, but it did not make his main issues any better at all.  We got through the summer just fine.  He was at camps and whatnot, so he wasn't in difficult environments for him.  We still had to make a school decision.  We opted for the public school in our neighborhood.  It's a Montessori school and we thought the completely different curriculum that allows more choices and freedom of movement, etc. would be better for him.  Plus, we figured the public school had more resources for this kind of thing and the teachers were probably used to and willing to put up with a lot more shit than the private school teachers.

The fall semester went really well.  A few issues here and there, but overall he was doing great.  We were in pretty constant contact with the teacher and her aide (who we knew from a previous school, which was a great bonus).  During the spring, though, he started to regress to the same behaviors we saw last spring.  My wife and I both got the feeling of "here we go again."  Some of our son's behaviors were pretty severe - hitting other kids, knocking over furniture, running out of the classroom.  The teachers took it way more in stride than the private school teachers, but still, things reach a point where they have to escalate.  We are kind of at that point now.  We decided to give the focalin another try.  We dosed him last Sunday to see how it affected him.  Not good.  It was his little brother's birthday party day and my parents were in town, so there was a lot of stimulation. He was talking really fast and had a hard time getting all of his thoughts out.  During the party, he isolated himself and just sat in a corner until we finally coaxed him to move to a better place for him to chill out.  He kept saying weird shit, like how he had all of these problems and no one could fix them.  It was kind of heartbreaking to witness.  My wife and I decided that the focalin was a total disaster and that we weren't going to give it to him again.  This caused us to think that maybe he was misdiagnosed altogether. His diagnosis was ADHD.  I can't say I have the scientific definition memorized, but our son does not have problems keeping his attention on something.  Quite the opposite actually.  He is not hyperactive.  Again, quite the contrary - he loves nothing more than to chill on the couch at home with his iPad.  My theory is that he actually has OCD and possibly depression (just like me and probably several others in my family). We had a consult with the pediatrician and his psychologist.  They agreed that we should discontinue the focalin.  On Monday, he was still kind of experiencing the effects of the focalin and I could tell he was off, but we sent him to school anyway.  He lasted fifteen minutes before the teacher texted my wife telling her that he was having a bad day and raging out.  We probably could have left him there, but I went and picked him up and stayed with him at home until my wife could relieve me.

We were feeling a bit overwhelmed at that point.  Luckily, while my wife was at work (she works at a swanky health club) one of her clients noticed something was wrong and my wife told her what was up.  The client, who is a wealthy and connected older lady, stopped their session right then and there and put in a call to a friend who is a child psychiatrist.  We had an appointment with another one, but the earliest we could get in was late April, which might've been too late for us.  This new doc called back almost immediately and Voila! we got an appointment for next week.  That's how the RPN (Rich People Network) works!  Anyway, we're pretty excited about this new doc.  My wife talked to him already and he understood the situation immediately.  He also thinks maybe he was misdiagnosed and that focalin wasn't the right drug for him.  So, right now we're just waiting for the psychiatrist appointment and we'll see what happens from there.

 

 

As MD said, he could still have ADD but perhaps not the hyperactive kind. Does he lose things a lot? If he has trouble with focus that could explain why he lashes out with kids at school. He loses track of conversations, or mishears things and then gets mad. My son from a young age has always done better interacting with adults. I think it's because adults are generally more understanding with kids and take time to communicate with them. Peers on the other hand have less patience. If you can't keep up with the back and forth then poof they're gone. My son also tends to gravitate to kids a couple years younger than him. I think that's because they look up to him and seek out communicating with him, as well as his relative immaturity. You might've seen that with your son. No matter what, I would agree that the focalin has to go.

It seems like you're taking the correct steps. It's not uncommon for it to take time to figure out what's going on. These kids all live somewhere on a spectrum of behavior (not just the autism one). 

One last thing, be aware that throughout this process there will be times that you think you have it all figured out. There will be times that you think he's never gonna be fine. Good days, bad days. For the kid, and also for you and your wife. You just have to keep working with/for your kid every day. I'm pulling for you.

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I don't think we got a differentiating ADHD diagnosis.  They also diagnosed him with a fine motor skills development disorder, but we think that has been corrected or gone by the wayside now.

To me, my son exhibits hardly any of these on the chart to a great degree.  Impulsivity, yes, but almost none of the others on the H side. When he gets nervous he can fidget. When he doesn't win or doesn't do well at something his self esteem is greatly affected.  Those are honestly the only ones I think fit.

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I am reading through this thread and seeing some really good information being shared. To the parents in here or other posters who have friends with children going through similar stuff you have my respect. Just keep showing your child love and do all you can to better their situation. 
 

I attempted briefly to teach in the 4th grade as a special education teacher. One day I tell my co-teacher, someone who has taught for a decade, that one of the kids in the class has autism. He says “We don’t know that.” I became apoplectic because it was literally the first thing in his file. He didn’t even bother to read it. I didn’t need that file to know he has autism because I am on the mild end of the spectrum. I never got help as a kid. My mom just thought I was kinda different. I don’t blame her for not pushing for more answers back then because the knowledge just was not there at her disposal.
 

My reason for mentioning this is if you suspect your child might be on the spectrum to look into the background of who they are being taught by. Have a conversation with them to attempt to discern how they relate to children with autism or children with ADHD. You can have a teacher in the classroom with an Ivy League education that does not understand how to relate to or show empathy to a child that both sees the world differently and learns in their own way as well. I would rather have a teacher from A&M in the class if it meant they had a strong understanding of how to reach children on the spectrum as well as those with other learning disabilities.

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On 3/5/2023 at 2:22 PM, UpperWestside said:

I would rather have a teacher from A&M in the class if it meant they had a strong understanding of how to reach children on the spectrum as well as those with other learning disabilities.

Good advice but let’s not get fucking crazy here.  Maybe Tech or Coog. 

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