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On 8/21/2025 at 1:01 PM, 956 Worldwide said:

It’s in Virginia. Our younger daughter has a start at 0845 for elementary school, the high schoolers start later as well.

0715 is when she needs to be in the door, I think the bell for first period rings at 0720.

That sucks.  Here in Austin elementary starts at 7:40 an middle school and HS are staggered later.

I know it’s controversial but if/when my kids get run down I will give them a day where they can sleep in and just be tardy.  As long as they’re tired from being productive (and not from screen time or throwing fits at bed time) I feel like it’s justified.  And I’ve had their teachers agree with me.

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On 9/19/2025 at 1:44 PM, jimmyjazz said:

Man, if I thought back to every decision I made and how my parents must have felt about some of them I'd just lose it.  They will make their way, and it's THEIR way.

 

On 10/19/2025 at 12:03 AM, Etexhorn13 said:

Any of yall have that second child that shows serious “second child syndrome”? My first (4) is the most laid back, go with the flow kid ever, and always has been. Segundo is the total opposite. Huge personality, very demanding, life is on his schedule etc. I think I get it, psychologically, but holy shit can it be straining sometimes. Hes been going through a phase lately where he only wants mom and will tell me to go away, never wants me to put him to bed, etc, which kinda hurts my feelings until I remember he’s 2.
 

My 4 yo is turning into an awesome big brother and is generally an easy kid, but #2 puts me through the wringer sometimes. I will say that he has an extremely vocal, fun personality, though. See video for evidence: 

My 2 are very different too.  
 

Oldest is a superstar achiever.  99th percentile on any standardized test, straight A’s, and every teacher she has ever had gushes about what a kind, bright, lovable kid she is.  Her Achilles heel is meltdowns when she gets overly tired, and I have not been able to get her interested in sports, but otherwise she’s pretty much the perfect kid.  As a parent I feel a lot of pressure not to fuck her up or do anything that might prevent her from reaching her potential, but mostly I’m just always proud.

#2 is a low achiever.  For my part I feel like she’s very intelligent, but just a little quirky.  She’s very articulate for her age, and she often picks up on things that only a kid with a high intellect would notice or understand.  But she has zero motivation to perform, and she has a LOT of trouble staying on task.  Carrot, stick, doesn’t matter, she doesn’t give a fuck.  She recently scored in the 33rd percentile on reading and her teacher said she is regressing (teacher is a sweet kid but a dumbass so I take her opinion with a grain of salt).  But then the next day we get an email that she performed well on the gifted and talented assessment.  It feels like I fucked something up somewhere.  I don’t have a career or any significant hobbies.  I have poured everything I have into  these kids and to see one not doing well is making feel like a failure or feel nihilistic.  I anchor back to the fact that despite her quirks/struggles, she is an extremely thoughtful, kind, empathetic child, and is as adorable and lovable as Shirley temple, so it could be a LOT worse.  But from time to time I’m tempted to just kind of give up and let her do what she’s going to do.

Parenting is hard.

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@Snake Diggity is not you. You cannot make your children be what you want. You can guide them and they have to want to be a thing. 

I'm right there with you and I know others in the same boat. 

Just be a good dad and hope they pick up on it. 

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